@unpunishablewoman: Decentering men is not a mindset. It’s a structure. And if you’re in a system that requires alignment, agreement, and consideration of a man at every level…you haven’t decentered him. You can’t be fully self-centered and structurally tied to a man at the same time. One will always take priority. #singlewoman #marriage #dating
How can you De-center someone that is LITERALLY at the Center of your life?
2026-05-02 21:29:54
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InTheGlow135 :
I realized I never wanted to consult with anyone about anything in my house, life etc… not marrying or dating was a no brainer for me.
2026-05-03 01:27:37
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lealivinglife.com :
I started being intentional in promoting women, mentoring women, investing in women - my doctors, services I use, hell I only give to female beggars on the street. I’m Catholic but I clocked from a young age the scam it is and I’m not confessing my sins to receive forgiveness from no man 😂. Beyond decentering men, it’s also recognizing who needs the support in society and focusing on that. The expectation from men to be centered is what I cannot reconcile with.
2026-05-03 12:14:37
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sheridansworld :
My daily motivation talks are on. Heyyy😇
2026-05-02 21:14:51
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TH' KFC :
How different my younger life would of been if I could have listened to you in my 20s but unfortunately for my you were still a toddler 😂
2026-05-02 21:31:36
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Valennnnnvelezzzzz :
Me watching this entire video
2026-05-03 20:22:25
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deedeedawson12 :
This is the most nuanced take Ive heard so far.
2026-05-03 01:01:41
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Unpunishable Woman :
Substack version is now out - link via my bio!
2026-05-04 10:37:20
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NitaKnows :
Can you start a podcast omgggg!
2026-06-16 09:46:02
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Lanre | on the human condition :
Every time I see you on my screen
2026-06-25 21:42:45
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mamaV29 :
Ashanti, your takes are always nuanced and so logical. LOVE the layered approach to this topic that is all over my feed right now ❤️
2026-05-03 11:54:42
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Watching these at 19 and realising that ive always thought this it was just never put into words for me
2026-05-05 05:38:44
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Anna Sans! :
Side note: you are an EXCELLENT speaker. I took a few women’s study/political theory classes in college and I WISH my professors had been as eloquent, engaging, & nuanced as you
2026-06-08 23:36:35
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Raque Teresa :
Your message, your presence is powerful. It makes me reflect and helps me to love myself better. Thank you ❤️
2026-05-03 02:07:29
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Lorraine :
I love your content so much. Every morning I ask myself how can I become even more unpunishable.
2026-05-04 15:06:52
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Jezebella :
I really need to make a video on this! I agree with you completely
2026-05-03 16:12:18
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Queen Beekeeper :
my soul never wanted marriage. many people tried to discourage me but I don't care about their opinion
2026-05-03 12:49:38
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DQ11115 :
If I've not said it recently... I'll say it now. Love your mind and thank you. You give me hope. That's so much more than anything else.
2026-05-04 00:41:11
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Priscilla the Diva✨🪞🦢 :
Obsessed with your mind! A philosopher 🤗
2026-05-03 02:15:48
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Nunu♏️🇳🇬🇺🇸💙💛🐩 :
I’m on this journey I wish I would’ve done this 10 years ago I’d be in a better position
2026-05-02 23:33:49
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my show is on!!!!
2026-05-02 21:29:47
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pancakespastapositivity :
Thank you <3
2026-05-03 17:40:21
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http_breezy :
This is a really good analysis. I look forward to reading your substack. You’ve given me a lot to think about!
2026-05-03 14:14:46
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