xoxo, cj •relationship burnout
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Mamba :
You’re perfect and it was all his fault ?
2026-05-03 16:27:18
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i_m_found :
Did you do the same?
2026-05-03 01:23:21
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JrRob47 :
Been doing the work and the changes needed were not hard to adapt to. Therapy weekly, staying sober, showing up for her when she needs anything and respecting boundaries even though they’re not exactly clear so just refraining from unnecessary contact. Also been journaling a lot and writing letters she will never get. Initially I was hoping to win her back over time but now that I’m realizing how selfish that is and accepting the reality of things I will hold to the changes I’m making to ensure I’ll never be the man that put her through all of this again. I still hold on to the hope of being with her again, but more than anything I want her to find peace and happiness again and will always be there for anything and everything if it means her life is easier and less stressful. My love for her will always be open and real.
2026-05-03 00:45:49
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CortesC :
Question is what did you do to better yourself ?
2026-05-03 03:32:09
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Brian Diaz :
all I hear is me i me
2026-05-03 21:28:49
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Hannah Hauxwell :
Poor guy.
2026-05-04 06:05:43
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F.Aguilar :
As we’re getting close to a year of separation, I’ve had a lot of time to reflect and grow. During this separation, I’ve started to recognize the burnout she was experiencing and many things I failed to see while we were together. In the first couple of months, I know I was overwhelming and smothering her emotionally, and although that can still be a challenge at times, I’ve made progress in learning how to give space and focus on my own growth. I still pray and hope for reconciliation one day, but I’ve also learned how to live independently, build my own routines, and continue moving forward with life. Over time, things between us have become more peaceful. When I go see our boys, she’ll occasionally invite me to breakfast or dinner depending on the timing, and she hasn’t mentioned divorce in months. Since the separation, I’ve committed myself to therapy, reading more, and growing deeper in my faith. One of the biggest things I’ve learned is that even if reconciliation never happens, I genuinely still want her to be happy. Right now, my focus is becoming a healthier and better version of myself not only for me, but also so I can be a better husband if we are ever given another opportunity together. That’s why videos and content about growth, healing, and healthy relationships really resonate with me. I’m trying to learn, improve, and understand how to love better moving forward. Thank you.
2026-05-15 12:29:03
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Adam Rohde :
this is great. I'm curious what you're doing. what are you doing to heal?
2026-06-07 07:43:02
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user9523135355256 :
And you???
2026-06-23 00:41:19
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Lauren | conflict & connection :
Sustaining change without demanding immediate forgiveness is the only way to make a hyper-vigilant nervous system feel safe enough to drop its walls.
2026-07-03 09:15:50
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Sllim :
These comments are WILD!!!!! Thank you for sharing this. Sorry people are weird.
2026-05-15 02:41:57
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Bringtheheat :
And what did u do?
2026-06-20 21:40:37
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Leading With Love :
Which ones did you do?
2026-06-19 00:19:47
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Caleb :
How can I show kindness when we need space and are trying to heal do I still do things or do I just communicate the right way can I still show acts kindness/love while being separated or is this all just more suffocating?
2026-06-16 15:08:29
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josephgroven :
Been doing a lot of work and I’m proud of who I am becoming. Individual therapy, group therapy, reading, men’s leadership courses through church, seeking counsel from elders. Unfortunately, my wife still moved out and took the kids. My wife filed for divorce and has chosen to start dating as well. We’ve been together for 13 years and have two beautiful children together. I’ve radically acknowledged the situation we are in and the accepted the damage I’ve added and have put my entire focus into healing and becoming a better, safe person. I have never talked bad about my wife and will still see her as my wife after the divorce.
2026-05-03 14:29:45
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J :
thank you. this is so encouraging for me if I get her back. I am truly taking notes and trying to work on myself.
2026-05-02 23:55:00
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ThatOneGuyB :
Would you recommend those coaches, and what is/are the names of the coaches
2026-06-03 23:10:04
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Alerina :
First of all the comms in this section are awful second of all I would love to know what resources did he access specifically. I want to help him through this
2026-05-21 08:40:26
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Rusty Shackleford :
this is just so exhausting. so exhausting to do the damage, fix myself, then attempt repair with the burnout. im sure she feels the same.
2026-05-02 23:39:51
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Elin :
Said I wanted out this January, after years of not getting any response. He finally accepted his role the problems in our marriage and has been working on them in therapy as well ass with me in couples counselling. Two weeks ago I decided I can’t anymore. It is so hard because he has been consistently showing up with respect and space since then andwe both still love each other. But Idon’t think I’ve been in love with him for years. How far gone was you love for him? Was there embers or just a pile of wet logs?
2026-05-03 08:54:19
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Kyler Sharp :
How did your heart get frozen, dead and numb? Do tell.
2026-05-12 00:12:06
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Kelly :
I will never know if he becomes an emotionally safe place. I will never test again.
2026-05-03 06:27:53
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wandering.cowgirl34 :
im glad that worked for yall. unfortunately thats not going to happen for everyone which I know you've stated in multiple videos you've posted. my husband filed right after I found out he cheated so and now hes delaying after filing and im just ready to be done. we have 1 child together which honestly sucks because I hate putting her through all this.
2026-05-02 23:40:32
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Altarium :
“What did you do to contribute to your separation/divorce?” This is the question that I asked myself every time I ended a relationship, and this is the question that I asked my ex’s.I’m glad he did everything that you’re saying and I hope you have a happy life.Wish you all the best
2026-05-04 06:24:20
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Bellinee :
I hope he would realize this, I want softness too. The same type ive tried to provide that ”he never asked me to do”, but Ive still asked to get that. And he was just always defencive towards me… I miss the soft caring person he was😔 He was my safe space, my guardian, and then he became someone I had to protect myself from..
2026-05-03 12:41:13
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