@antdsply: Affairs don’t always start with desire…they often start with self-sabotage. When someone feels unworthy of real love, they may seek validation from someone easier to control or impress. ❤️🩹🫶🏻 #sidechick #affair #infidelity #cheating #betrayal
How?! How do you not relive this every single day? Most of the time I’m good but the tiniest thing triggers me and not even he understands it and then I’m back at square one again… honest healing after this betrayal is like “50 first dates” Resetting each and every day is exhausting
2026-05-05 15:31:58
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Hon3y503💋 :
How did you two make it ? I’ve been staying- I’m not leaving him he’s leaving me he cheated , I have fault but he wants a divorce and blames me and I’m being patient I know God doesn’t want me to leave yet. I haven’t given up
2026-05-06 05:00:37
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Annerdan :
I’m deciding to stay. I feel what we have is worth working for. I know all my friends will be upset with me. Tell me I need to walk away. I am scared of their judgment, but I’m also not ready to give up. I’ll be guarded for sure and need him to show through consistency that he is loyal and willing to make US work. This is still soooo fresh so I feel like my emotions are in a constant yo-yo status. Up and down. Up and down. I think your videos may help. I pray my efforts are not wasted. 😔
2026-06-15 01:20:25
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🦂RealScorpio🦂 :
Person or persons? That is a very hard pill to swallow, I have been there 😢
2026-05-06 23:16:20
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Angie Vazquez :
I also stayed for 15 years after I found out the first time ... forgave him, stayed and he kept doing it over and over til one day I started praying and breaking down in front of God asking and begging Him to please help me get out of that marriage. I remember crying telling God that I too was His daughter and I know that no Father would want to see His daughter in this much pain. I am finally free of that man and I know in my heart that God is who lead me out of that marriage.
2026-05-03 14:05:09
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Dr. Mary :
This hurts my heart because I feel that I was never enough for my ex. I would have stayed but he gave up me. I had to let go and let God heal my heart and mind.
2026-05-03 19:49:31
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Amy :
Thanks for all you do and share. I would love to hear how you deal with all the judgement of staying and blocking out that noise.
2026-05-03 02:58:54
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Becky Green :
To me cheating because deep down “I don’t believe I deserve you” is in fact the biggest reason not to cheat. 🤷🏻♀️I’m a very understanding person but cheating is one thing I’ll never understand. Been there and heard alllll the reasons.
2026-06-29 16:45:18
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Nasha :
I totally get the reason, to chase the dopamine, validation. BUT its easy to not cheat. I just been trough that. He looked me in the eye and said I love eye after he just was with another girl. I gave him my heart.
The pain it gives your partner, its just not fair
2026-05-04 00:55:38
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Adrianne ❤️ :
"we can be healed and still be uncomfortable. its a painful thing"
I love this. currently 2 years post dd. we are closer, more open, and happier than we've ever been in our 22 years together. but some days...the pain is still really loud. and i think im ....healing wrong...or healing incompletely somehow. so many of your videos help me regulate
2026-06-26 20:55:04
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shawty_stitches 🧵 :
Complete transparency
2026-05-03 15:16:47
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Rebecca♓️👑💋 :
sounds like my husband's story kind of
2026-05-04 06:02:55
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. :
Your page really helps me heal and I really appreciate what you guys are doing 😭😭
2026-06-18 23:54:46
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Lynn :
You both are so strong💜
2026-06-16 00:26:54
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Crystal :
I love this question
2026-05-10 14:23:40
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Clover 🍀 :
I love love love the honesty 🙏❤️
2026-05-03 13:25:15
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Raquel (Beva) :
Amen
2026-05-04 16:38:59
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Veronica :
I have 30 years in you guys are amazing
2026-05-04 23:02:43
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Apple User688537 :
Thank you both for being strong enough tot all your stories and be transparent so the world can see God can open both hearts and restore but also make the relationship better after cheating . It’s been so helpful to me
2026-05-31 10:39:02
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ZaboomafoobScoob :
resonated a lot with this, the trauma of the past can influence heavily that push-pull dynamic where the safe person makes you feel incredibly unsafe because of trauma. fearful avoidant attachment sucks
2026-06-16 01:57:37
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Caren :
I’m going through something right now! I would love to talk to you both to help me. Nobody understands nor do I understand.
2026-05-08 22:10:58
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Diedra Kennedy :
You're not STUPID!
2026-05-03 18:58:08
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PaulaM :
“Person or persons!” I don’t like that
2026-05-03 10:59:27
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