@thepottymouthguru: This didn’t start in your relationship. Sometimes defensiveness isn’t about not caring. It’s about what someone learned early on about what things mean about them. If being corrected felt like being judged or emotions weren’t really held or understood. It can turn into: something about me is wrong. So feedback later doesn’t just feel uncomfortable, it feels personal. And the system moves to protection. Understanding that can bring compassion but it doesn’t change the pattern. Look at what happens when discomfort shows up cause where the truth is. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #unfuckyourself #thepottymouthguru #relationshipdynamics #defensiveness #selfawareness

The Pottymouth Guru
The Pottymouth Guru
Open In TikTok:
Region: CA
Monday 04 May 2026 15:27:55 GMT
24732
2156
42
551

Music

Download

Comments

leighpeee
Watermelon :
the burnout is real. you're right, there's no way round it. but that means I stay silent and can't express any feelings or opinion because it's always triggers them. or I have to accept that if I do express how I feel it will end up in a row.
2026-05-04 22:35:01
23
lilyc223x
lilyc223 :
can you stop coming for me like this god damn 😭
2026-05-06 09:47:16
4
_the_nite_skye_
The Nite Skye 🌌🖤🐍🦉🥀 :
everything you said that leads up to the defensiveness, sounds like my life growing up. i may have been defensive in my youth, but for the past 20 years (now 50) I'm on the hurt side feeling invalidated by my partner's defensiveness.
2026-06-16 18:41:55
0
shaytovenn_
Shaytovenn_ :
How can we get them to see their own wound ? More importantly what motivates them want to heal the wound ?
2026-05-06 10:24:44
11
auty.ursid
Scott 🇨🇦 Auty Ursid :
For me: I learned that mistakes are fatal and forgiveness isn't readily available. So when I suspect there's a chance the judgment is based on a misunderstanding, correcting the misunderstanding feels like my only lifeline.
2026-05-07 12:37:46
12
earthenflowerchild
earthenflowerchild :
Jesus u just summed up my childhood..every word
2026-06-15 15:36:46
0
mandyparsons33
Mandy1117 :
What about super traumatic things in adulthood and relationships????
2026-05-13 16:05:53
2
liberty4p4l3st1ne
Misty :
That’s how I grew up. Being scrutinised and constantly criticised then mocked and shamed and labelled too sensitive..
2026-06-13 15:40:25
1
thepottymouthguru
The Pottymouth Guru :
What actually happens in the moment when something feels off between you?
2026-05-04 15:30:52
2
tide_born888
tide_born| heilen v.Narzissmus :
you always explain everything so well, thank you🥰
2026-05-04 16:24:35
12
blackthorn45
Blackthorn45 :
how does one work on addressing this and is there any way to get through to someone who does this and thus you've shrunk yourself into oblivion?
2026-05-31 22:52:01
1
michelleleech
Michelle Lee :
Yeeeessss! Chronic criticism. Constant disapproval.
2026-05-06 13:48:27
6
redmoonf2
redmoonf :
I love your vintage natural vibe
2026-05-05 13:54:41
1
adownd2
adownd2 :
Spot on!
2026-06-03 17:05:48
1
coffingeist
Scarlet Coffingeist :
checked all the boxes... do I get a prize?😭/hj
2026-05-08 01:42:26
2
amandafulk8
amandafulk8 :
Girl, I love the way you explain things 👏👏👏
2026-05-23 09:37:23
1
stuartcallaghan
stuartcallaghan :
That makes a lot of sense....
2026-05-05 21:30:26
1
neuroscience16
Miss Cartographer :
Constantly. And it didn’t do good things to me.
2026-05-05 18:29:22
1
spirit.of.the.sun1
Larissa :
this was my entire childhood
2026-05-05 00:06:05
2
jensama9
Jsama :
You are one of my new favorite creators! Thank you for all that you share 🙂
2026-05-05 19:54:35
1
justbuiltdifferent_
justbuiltdifferent_ :
💯💯💯💯💯 Girl be my therapist!! 🤣
2026-06-02 14:40:37
0
cgallinger
Cgallinger :
Omg you nail it with how my mother is in every video. Help me heal from her
2026-06-14 03:23:25
0
bessievibes
Betsy B :
Our beds had to be made before we could open any presents on xmas 😅
2026-06-06 10:08:32
0
sochauddddd
C.D :
I keep saving all your videos on here :(((( Im a little desperate to have them all in long form so I can watch on utube on my TV daily :((( and I did make an effort to figure out your youtube but the longer vids are all from 3-5 yrs ago 😂
2026-06-11 04:57:04
0
j.williams1980
The leprechaun :
What if you were raised with all of these
2026-05-17 10:35:53
0
To see more videos from user @thepottymouthguru, please go to the Tikwm homepage.

Other Videos


About