@thepottymouthguru: This didn’t start in your relationship. Sometimes defensiveness isn’t about not caring. It’s about what someone learned early on about what things mean about them. If being corrected felt like being judged or emotions weren’t really held or understood. It can turn into: something about me is wrong. So feedback later doesn’t just feel uncomfortable, it feels personal. And the system moves to protection. Understanding that can bring compassion but it doesn’t change the pattern. Look at what happens when discomfort shows up cause where the truth is. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #unfuckyourself #thepottymouthguru #relationshipdynamics #defensiveness #selfawareness
the burnout is real. you're right, there's no way round it. but that means I stay silent and can't express any feelings or opinion because it's always triggers them. or I have to accept that if I do express how I feel it will end up in a row.
2026-05-04 22:35:01
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lilyc223 :
can you stop coming for me like this god damn 😭
2026-05-06 09:47:16
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The Nite Skye 🌌🖤🐍🦉🥀 :
everything you said that leads up to the defensiveness, sounds like my life growing up. i may have been defensive in my youth, but for the past 20 years (now 50) I'm on the hurt side feeling invalidated by my partner's defensiveness.
2026-06-16 18:41:55
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Shaytovenn_ :
How can we get them to see their own wound ? More importantly what motivates them want to heal the wound ?
2026-05-06 10:24:44
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Scott 🇨🇦 Auty Ursid :
For me: I learned that mistakes are fatal and forgiveness isn't readily available. So when I suspect there's a chance the judgment is based on a misunderstanding, correcting the misunderstanding feels like my only lifeline.
2026-05-07 12:37:46
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earthenflowerchild :
Jesus u just summed up my childhood..every word
2026-06-15 15:36:46
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Mandy1117 :
What about super traumatic things in adulthood and relationships????
2026-05-13 16:05:53
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Misty :
That’s how I grew up. Being scrutinised and constantly criticised then mocked and shamed and labelled too sensitive..
2026-06-13 15:40:25
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The Pottymouth Guru :
What actually happens in the moment when something feels off between you?
2026-05-04 15:30:52
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tide_born| heilen v.Narzissmus :
you always explain everything so well, thank you🥰
2026-05-04 16:24:35
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Blackthorn45 :
how does one work on addressing this and is there any way to get through to someone who does this and thus you've shrunk yourself into oblivion?
You are one of my new favorite creators! Thank you for all that you share 🙂
2026-05-05 19:54:35
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justbuiltdifferent_ :
💯💯💯💯💯 Girl be my therapist!! 🤣
2026-06-02 14:40:37
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Cgallinger :
Omg you nail it with how my mother is in every video. Help me heal from her
2026-06-14 03:23:25
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Betsy B :
Our beds had to be made before we could open any presents on xmas 😅
2026-06-06 10:08:32
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C.D :
I keep saving all your videos on here :(((( Im a little desperate to have them all in long form so I can watch on utube on my TV daily :((( and I did make an effort to figure out your youtube but the longer vids are all from 3-5 yrs ago 😂
2026-06-11 04:57:04
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The leprechaun :
What if you were raised with all of these
2026-05-17 10:35:53
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