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TorchtheWitch🇨🇦 :
I started by not buying his family birthday and Christmas gifts. Then I stopped sending Christmas cards to anyone except my friends. Then I stopped doing his laundry, then I stopped cooking for him. Then I stopped shopping for food for him. Then I left him. It was a great idea
2026-05-07 16:50:59
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brittanymarie1223 :
As an eldest daughter it’s the surrendering control of the outcome for me
2026-05-07 22:44:15
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Ulrika Enslin :
I also stopped doing this, planning for something he wanted to do. So a few weeks ago my husband decided for his off weekend he wanted to go visit family. The next evening I asked him for the final details ab9ut this weekend so I would pack my bags accordingly. After he called all relatives involved in the visit he was angry and told me he doesn't understand why he had to do all the planning... he still doesn't get why I didn't do it so guess this will just repeat itself again😂
2026-06-26 18:03:24
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Caitlin Connor :
A little more direct, but when my husband says “remind me…..” I just say “no” lol
2026-05-07 10:58:45
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One thing at a time :
As an older wife and mother - may all the young women find this content and let them start their adult lives with this mentality
2026-05-07 15:45:15
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The Laurax🇨🇦🇺🇦🍉 :
I started with not buying his family gifts at Christmas. they got no gifts
2026-05-07 03:57:41
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Mishy1981 :
My husband JUST texted me to look for Clorox wipes and put them by the door for him so he remembers to bring them to work. Immediately thought of your video and texted him back telling him to put a reminder in his phone so he remembers
2026-05-07 12:24:30
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CeCe 💚iskeewee🩷 :
My favorite line is “I love when you take care of things and I trust your decisions” it works every time. He now plans everything!
2026-05-07 22:22:14
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Dana Marie Photography :
I've started saying "use your brain, not mine"
2026-05-07 14:17:56
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drdemetrialambert :
I never say, "Let me know if I can help." That invites more labor. "Sounds good." is a perfectly fine and complete response from me.
2026-05-07 11:12:39
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Marquettemurry :
I got a divorce 🥰
2026-05-07 14:40:07
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Riki Regina :
I realized a lot of my resentment came from prioritizing his interests. I stopped.
2026-05-08 00:49:25
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Nyte Nunya Bizness 🌚🌙🌘 :
The craziest part about learning to decenter your partner, is most of the time no one asked you to do it in the first place. Very eye opening
2026-05-07 18:33:02
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Valeta1022 :
I wish i found The Reflection You Never Faced by Emma Vale sooner, heavily underrated
2026-05-10 12:31:57
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CrabcakeMargaritas 💙🧷 :
Wow. The way I recoiled at the thought of someone else planting flowers … this is a good series.
2026-06-26 18:16:11
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PricklyWitch :
I wish I had adopted this 25 years ago. But then 25 years ago I would have thought that this was lazy or mean or a punishment. Understanding the reasons for decentering your husband only became clear when the overwhelm and loss of self was so brutally aparent.
2026-05-09 22:23:40
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Baby Bear 🧸 :
This is such an important conversation. I’m a 47 year old recovering people pleaser and lovingly decentering my husband and returning to myself is crucial therapeutic work for me. These are challenging patterns to break and it helps to know others are navigating this as well. I’m so grateful that I no longer need to hustle for my worth.
2026-05-07 03:39:19
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Xoxobe11a :
I tried doing this and then we hosted a party with no water 😭
2026-06-26 00:52:43
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IndyTracy :
I recently told my husband that for the last 9 years I haven’t ordered the kind of pizza I like bc he likes sausage and my bonus son likes cheese. He didn’t ask me to do that but I realized I do this for EVERYONE in my life. I jump into action to make everyone comfortable at all times, even at my own expense. At 44 I’m not doing that anymore.
2026-05-07 15:58:41
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Tyanna | 100k Networth Journey :
It’s the surrendering control of the outcome for me 😭😩 thank you for this
2026-05-07 11:22:53
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Nicole Taylor :
My husband will say something about needing something from the store and I’ll say “thank goodness the store is opened for you as well.” ☺️
2026-05-07 18:54:11
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Misty G :
Thank you for this. I watched this last night, then an hour or so later my husband said that he needed to find a bag to pack for his trip he was leaving on this morning. Normally, I would have found a bag for him, made sure he had clean laundry ect. I will be honest. I started to do that. I said "Oh the striped bag......" then I remembered this video and finished with "I am sure you are capable of finding it.". Then I asked "Do you need to do any laundry?". He said he needed a couple shirts washed. Normally, I would have done the laundry and made sure he didn't need more than shirts washed. Instead I said "Well, if you happen to wash those can you throw my jeans in too?" I woke up to him long gone on his trip and my clean jeans in the dryer. But, wow in that moment last night my anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF.
2026-05-07 10:24:23
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Dedee :
Biggest life hack LET GO OF CONTROL!!!!!
2026-06-24 16:12:03
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Vic Barbieri 🇨🇦 :
I make my husband do his own kin keeping. They’re your family, YOU take care of keeping that relationship going.
2026-05-07 10:45:37
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Irene🪿 :
Yessss!!!! My husband this year was like “we should host Mother’s Day at the park for my family” I was like awesome! Then he never spoke about it again. Yesterday I’m like, what happened? He’s like meh it’s fine. Because I didn’t do it for him or initiate it like I did last year 🤷🏼♀️OH WEEEEELLLLLLL - stress free
2026-05-07 23:01:31
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