@clinically.positi: Urge surfing is a skill from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy that teaches you how to handle intense urges without immediately acting on them. Whether it’s the urge to escape, check, text, react, avoid, or seek relief, these impulses can feel overwhelming and urgent in the moment. But urges behave like waves: they rise, peak, and eventually fall, even if you don’t act on them. The problem is that when we give in to urges straight away, we reinforce the cycle and make them stronger over time. Urge surfing is about learning to pause, observe the urge, and ride it out with awareness instead of reacting automatically. It’s not about suppressing how you feel or forcing yourself to be calm, it’s about recognising that discomfort is temporary and survivable. When you stop treating every urge like a command, you begin to build tolerance, self-control, and psychological flexibility. Over time, this creates more freedom in your behaviour, because you’re no longer driven by whatever you feel in the moment you’re choosing how to respond 💙 You're Doing Great 💙 #DBT #MentalHealth #Psychology

user5201748431718 :

urge surfing is such a helpful coping skill for me

user5995733546238 :

but how do you tell when your gut is right? sometimes you shouldnt just push through

mumei.miau :

what if I still feel like shit and even worse sometimes when I'm out with people?

chascaswife72 :

I always regret going out. The urge is right

Chamomile :

I get these urges a lot to the point that ever fiber of my being screams at me to get out or leave or run away but what i try to do is say “i will show up and after 5 minutes i will leave.” And then if i manage to stay i go “okay i will stay for another 10 minutes then i will leave.” Knowing that I am not trapped and can leave the situation in a set amount of time brings me a lot of comfort.

Fiber maxer :

Unfortunately when these urges are heavy they wont disappear, you cant just brsuh them off. Working through them takes effort and a professional who knows that they're doing.

💖 Mutt (it/she) 💖 :

yea my brain doesn't work like that.

Kimmeth :

Slide 4 is always a lie. The discomfort never passes and I end up ruminating and even dreaming about them 😭 The thoughts do not leave until I do talk to them again. This isn't even about serious stuff. Like right now I'm extremely busy so I don't even have TIME to talk to the person I want to but I NEED them cuz I'm stressed and they make me feel better so they're all I can focus on.

Potato :

this is like saying "if ur sad but be happy"

vee :

i have anxiety and i often dont realize most things and feelings are completely temporary🙏

esther :

why did this actually stop me from having a panick attack at work?

fapple :

bomboclaat :

the isolation one is so fucking real

iria :

The information of the tiktok is most certainly true, and I see comments that are saying that if they urge surf it doesnt always work out regardless, which is completely valid! I often experience this as well and try my best to balance between the two, you cannot always force yourself to—let’s say, go out all the time. Sometimes it’s genuinely really okay to just stay home if you don’t feel mentally well:) But there are also times that I force myself to go out because I an aware that cancelling plans will lead to further isolation. It really all just depends, learning to balance is really difficult.

Béa :

Insomnia doesn’t work like that

Thund8ra :

Need this fr

ℒ 𓂃 ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔 :

Angie🐒 :

orangejus :

i don’t get “isolation”. why feeling like not going is not valid. sometimes genuinely want to stay home and when i push myself to go out end up hating it.

Noah ✨ | Writer :

I've tried to adopt this process as much as I can and it truly does help so much

plastichaven_ :

Telling myself that “I didn’t feel it before, therefore I’m gonna stop feeling it at some point too” has really stopped me from doing some goofy shit way too many times

fabs :

ok but! it will pass faster if I do The Thing instead of suffering for two hours

meowz :

how do i do this while not procastinating idk if that makes sense what if i try dis and then it makes me like not do anythinf. EVER

Cookie • Sœb :