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lapanim009 :
This series has made me realize I have never once centered a man in my life and I’d like to thank my beautiful mama for that gift!!! And I love this journey for you!!!!!
2026-05-08 00:33:36
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carovskyj :
Could you explain these nethods more in depth? How does ur daily meditation look like? Do you focus on a specific mantra? How did your EMDR therapy work? What jornal app do you use that allows you to add a password? Was your therapist following a type of therapy model when working with you to better understand your journey and support you? Any books you used to educate yourself during this time?
2026-06-03 12:40:20
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emeryrealle :
I indirectly did this and now I’m divorced. But I also had a conversation about me taking a step back from this role in our marriage and needing at least 2 hours a day to do what I want without limits. He didn’t like that at all. 😂 But anyway I’m very happy now
2026-05-08 10:50:35
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AbaEgyirba :
When I started this, I found out he was far more capable than I had been led to believe. He once said “I never asked you to do this and that” and I found out he was right. I was taking on burdens that he had never asked me to take. We had both been conditioned to be that way. He really surprised me with his competence in the home. It turns out he is actually a very efficient home maker.
2026-05-10 14:42:58
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Tatum Lee Thomas :
I did it because of an event too, and perimenapause made me see how much I do for everyone and what people expect of me vs me of them is an asinine difference.
2026-05-08 01:20:23
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K :
What were you and your relationship like before you started decentering? What is it like now?
2026-05-07 23:54:40
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JayRae4 :
Our journeys are SO similar it’s fascinating. I’m in the middle of EMDR and it is intense but I’m hoping it pays off.
2026-05-08 01:23:15
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user8381221350930 :
How do I do this with children? (Am worried that I have to decentre them too often in order to find myself again)
2026-05-10 07:34:42
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kuethediva :
“Your happiness is not my responsibility..”
2026-05-08 18:12:15
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FlMelinda :
I stopped at centering my husband a little over five years ago. It’s difficult because we have two children which throws you into that role a little bit deeper, but honestly, it is probably saved my entire mental health. Unfortunately, our story will probably end in divorce, but I’m still happier.
2026-05-08 11:14:14
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heyjaimefish :
I relate to every word of this journey. I did something very similar, and it saved my life and my marriage.
2026-05-08 00:14:07
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Em Nikole 🌦 :
i think my favorite thing about this saga of videos has been realizing that, at 23, i’ve built a relationship with similar boundaries. that i’m so lucky to have done this for myself now, not 5 or 10 or 20 years from now when i’ve lived more of my life. thank you for sharing everything you do. your videos are also the reason i felt comfortable getting sterilized at 23 as well 🥹❤️
2026-05-08 01:10:09
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whybegin :
Last night my husband asked me to bring the dogs in even though he was already downstairs and I was going to bed. I thought of you and said no 💖 he’s not controlling it’s just been a regular dynamic in our marriage that I by default do what he asks (yet I never ask him for anything— something I’m working on too)
2026-05-09 17:18:42
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Hamsa :
My wakeup call was when my husband said "I never asked you to do this or take this responsibility" and I was dumbfounded.
2026-05-16 10:51:00
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Amber :
I didn't even tell my husband I was decentering him 😅
2026-05-26 14:44:31
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Nichole Rawlings :
My husband has not let me center him. And I still, 6 years in, have moments where I feel SO guilty bc he does so much. He reassures me. He feels responsibilities are split equally. But it’s SO DIFFERENT from what marriage is “supposed to” look like, I still have to catch myself! I love it, but societal pressures are hard to de-center in your mind
2026-05-08 18:45:28
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Shay :
You really locked in
2026-05-11 03:44:50
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Shope :
People will grow with you, or you'll grow apart. People will adjust to your boundaries if they're meant to stay in your life, but if they want you to continue to sacrifice, they aren't meant for your life.
2026-05-08 12:00:42
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catherina5632 :
This is beautiful, Kelly. I hope this cross paths with every woman on this app.
2026-05-09 03:00:58
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Ashley💜R :
Apparently I unintentionally did this early in my marriage at like 22. Cause we had a stand off on dishes. He broke before I did. Now he doesn’t expect me to do anything but go to work
2026-05-08 18:53:39
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Michelle1239 :
I never told him straight forward and bluntly that I’m recentering my ficus. I just cleaned up my side of the street. Sure we talked about changes and how I felt but he was NEVER going to agree that I should recenter. But each time I change my own focus, I feel better and he’s starting to take back his own stuff. It’s hard but it gets better, for both of us.
2026-05-08 10:56:16
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Qetuosfhkxvn2468 :
At one point I was doing everything for everyone in my family leaving zero time for myself...it is what it is felt was required...my husband is a good guy and was working hard to financially support us all. Christmas REALLY put me over the edge every year. The big fights between my husband and myself revolved around making the magic happen and needing help. I learned to say no to volunteering, cooking, shopping, cleaning and other tasks that other family members were capable of doing. Learning NO was my best lesson.
2026-05-08 01:43:36
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midlifedesigner :
I’ve just realized this after 33years of marriage. I’m preparing for his retirement in 4 years and don’t want it to be centered around him. He is encouraging and wants me to continue to run my business but I don’t think he (or I) realize how much I’ve centered him.
2026-05-08 12:03:42
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yourbetterhalfbyjeanne :
I totally needed this 10 years ago. So great of you to share.
2026-05-08 21:16:08
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spektor306🇨🇦 :
is decentering similar to the process of unmeshing in a codependent relationship. my wife and I got married young and realized we were fully codependent. we have been intentionally unmeshing.
2026-05-08 01:46:02
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