@pocket.psychologist: Sometimes the behaviour is not the real problem. Sometimes the real problem is the belief underneath it. Perfectionism can look like “high standards” but underneath it might be: “I’m not enough.” People pleasing can look “kind” but underneath it might be: “Conflict isn’t safe.” Overthinking can look like “being prepared” but underneath it might be: “Something bad is coming.” A lot of the patterns we judge ourselves for are actually protective strategies built around deeper beliefs. And the goal is not to shame the pattern. The goal is to understand what the nervous system is trying to protect. Because when you meet the need underneath the pattern, the pattern often starts to soften. That’s exactly what I teach inside my Pocket Psychologist Mini Course: understanding your patterns, nervous system, core beliefs, emotions, coping styles, boundaries, habits, and practical tools that actually help in real life. Tiny concepts. Pocket-sized tools. Nervous system friendly. ✨ Link in bio to learn more.

Laura Reads :

What about when the pattern is people pleasing and the belief is that I’m too much??

ÁO'B :

love this, straight forward

Kobanyay 🇫🇷🎨 :

when my pattern is all the patterns

Jamie :

I love these so much! If possible, could pause at the end for a second or two so we can screenshot the whole thing? Thanks so much for such good advice condensed into a manageable package!

The Real Shawn Zinn :

NxKnows :

“Better not perfect “ my motto this year. 💕

Rica :

What is meant by 'good enough action'?

Jennifer Lynch, PhD :

good enough action has helped me hugely with my perfectionism when it comes to creativity! such a great reminder to name our needs. every pattern is a misguided attempt to meet a need. but if we can name the need and meet it in a small healthy way, the pattern can start to dissolve.

BennyBingBong :

What if i have all of these?

cilb3 :

Regarding the ‘overthinking’, and one next step… an example?

D :

Wow!!! great job compiling this!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Certified🌈♾🧠Pro🌍Organizer :

This series is brilliant and very, very helpful. Thank you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

RunGrowHeal :

What about with clingy feelings they ask direct and then also refuse to believe bc the partners actions aren’t the same way the clingy person would show love. But the partner truly does show love.

Te'Ericka Jackson :

Is this play about me?? It’s like she was in my brain.

_kate_expectations :

This is so useful! Thank you so much.

Rebekah’s Redesign :

These videos are amazing - very clear, organised and understandable for my autistic brain 🙏🏼🫶🏼 Thank you ❤️

Presley0138 :

What is “good enough action “?

xFlushie :

When my pattern is all of these 🫠

Chon :

Is this like about me ? 😳✨

Abby :

I love when you posts these vids! Explains each emotion/thought. 🌺❤️

Loes :

great video🔥 !!

Daniel.2010 :

Most people have no idea a book like The Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss even exists. The way it breaks down manipulation, desire and influence is honestly insane.

KevinKaarl29 :

I stumbled across The Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss and I’ll never look at manipulation, desire and influence the same again.

Neurodivergent Nicola 💜 :

It truly scares me that I needed to hear this today and the algorithm knew that 😳

Carla Turner :

Brilliant