helena_earls
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eep :
how do you overcome this when all your lived experience, even in adulthood, just reinforces that you don't matter to people?
2026-05-09 12:21:20
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Frances :
I also think no one remembers me so I don’t say hi to people in public or in passing (that I don’t know well)
2026-05-09 00:03:22
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Cupcakes And Commas :
My thing is, especially in groups, I have nothing to say. I’m so used to not taking up space that my mind just goes totally blank. A first step for me is practicing having something to add to begin with before I practice taking up space by saying it.
2026-05-09 00:01:40
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Vic Lawrence :
To this day (I’m 27) my parents know like 3 of my interests and get me gifts surrounding only those interests
2026-05-09 02:21:49
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metazen :
I relate to this so much. I absolutely believe that I am immediately forgotten, and no one ever thinks of me or cares what I think, feel, or have to say. It makes being in relationship with others tricky. Thank you for sharing this part of yourself.
2026-05-08 22:50:31
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Joolya :
Yup. And it also expresses itself in genuinely believing that the best thing I can do for people I care about is to inflict my presence on them (in person/online/messages etc) as little as possible.
2026-05-10 11:20:31
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Jessica Conners :
when someone remembers something I said and brings it back up to me.. I just... can't believe it
2026-07-01 18:21:23
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itsnotovertilitsover :
I almost scrolled because it hit a sensitive spot. then I came back to learn.
2026-05-09 02:19:34
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flossy :
I literally feel invisible. I assume people dont see or remember me. its odd ive felt this way most my adult life.
2026-06-26 20:15:44
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Sinning.Saintess :
This is so true! I tried to explain to someone one time that I believed this to be the reason that I was often late to show up to things. Because, who cares if I’m there anyway.? They absolutely had no idea what I was talking about lol.
2026-05-08 21:53:00
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bootysatva :
I get very triggered and angry when I perceive being overlooked. i felt like a ghost growing up and so now I demand to be thought of.
2026-05-08 23:36:33
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hannerz23 :
I fully assume that people from my past forget about me as soon as I’m not physically present this is so relatable
2026-05-09 14:17:55
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m / denophora :
if you wrote a memoir about your experiences I’d be first on that preorder list
2026-06-17 23:42:58
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FireShadow :
It also feels much safer being invisible bc being seen has meant punishment or bulldozing of boundaries
2026-05-11 01:03:31
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Stella :
There's a very strange feeling when you're in a relationship and trying to heal from this, when you start to insist that your partner consider you, and there's a backlash accusing you of making everything about yourself. It's an almost indescribable internal dislocation.
2026-05-09 02:20:46
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Sam :
How am I supposed to believe I matter when everyone constantly treats me like I don’t, and when standing up for myself just results in everyone pushing me away? I can’t mindset my way out of the way I am treated
2026-05-10 11:31:21
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C :
What if people do actually not listen or see you though?
2026-05-09 08:00:48
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💜💜 :
The is one made me have to sit for a moment and think about it. I swear, every video you post just resonates so hard. I like the way your brain works
2026-05-08 21:41:36
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sarahbande922 :
Wow. I know a lot about psychology but this is exactly how I feel and I’ve never heard anyone articulate this so well.
2026-05-08 22:23:52
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OnwardnUpward🌻 :
The only way I have been able to heal this wound somewhat is by having a friend who isn’t afraid to share when I’m on his mind. Like a song played at a wedding and he texted me to say “I thought of you when they played the first dance song” or today when he was telling me a story about how he tried a piece of chocolate and had a “Stephanie moment”. Or when he randomly texts me “how’s your day going?” The most uncomfortable part of this for me is learning to sit with the feeling of “omg they haven’t texted back in X hours” and not acting on it. However, the BEST moments have come from me doing that, so I am really leaning into this lately
2026-05-09 05:29:16
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kaylittlelou :
I genuinely started thinking I didnt truly exist growing up because people would interact with my friends in passing, but NEVER me. I still am working through those thoughts.
2026-05-10 12:00:35
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✨Wren✨ :
hey so this made me cry on my lunch break lmao but it's good for me to remember this
2026-05-10 16:39:43
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F.A :
it can cause damage in relationships I actually disappointed some one bcz I didnt think I could have any effect on anyone and they held expectations from me I didn't know and I disappointed them
2026-05-12 17:17:08
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Florence ✨ :
No but fr. My birthday is next wednesday and im like… scared to remind anyone
2026-05-16 00:26:41
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meghan 🪐 :
ughh this is so hard to shake
2026-06-04 18:43:12
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