I have been on a similar journey in my current 10 year relationship. On one hand I think centering myself has been positive for how we relate to one another, but it has also made me realize that I don’t think this relationship is going to go any further. Not for lack of love, but because I abandoned myself into a lifestyle I have realized I hate, and I don’t see him compromising or rising to the occasion, mostly because he hasn’t been willing to all this time, despite my being clear for over a year that I can’t continue to live this way.
2026-05-12 00:10:39
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Mrs.S :
Every word resonates, thank you for this series 💕
2026-06-20 13:09:07
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vance774 :
Thank you for all your videos. After 23 years of marriage I’ve finally woke up!
2026-05-13 13:54:29
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Bee 🐝 anka :
hi! could you speak on the anger you felt towards your husband? 🩷 thank you só much for all of this.
2026-05-21 14:40:05
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RSM :
Realizing the self betrayal is/ was gut wrenching. I know what you mean oh so well. Thanks for speaking on this topic.
2026-05-12 22:43:16
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E 🖕🏼 :
Thank you for sharing these. It really is helpful 💜
2026-05-12 00:07:11
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April Liu :
It’s crazy because I’m doing the exact same thing as you right now at age 32 - also had a code red situation, was at a breaking point, the relationship was going to be over either way I literally could not function and then I realized my childhood traumas and overfunctioning and self abandonment. I have never seen someone go through this specific journey before so this is very inspiring. Thank you!
2026-05-20 23:46:14
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Trauma Therapist|Travel Coach :
This is very healthy!!!
2026-05-12 16:49:39
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Leilani :
Can you talk about this how this affected your happiness? Like how did it change?
2026-05-13 13:04:50
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FeliciaV🙏🏾🇺🇸 :
What does healing the relationship with yourself look like? Up until now (57), I’ve never had a relationship with myself or have I ever focused on myself. I started taking line dancing. But, I have no idea how to relate to it with myself
2026-06-08 14:24:20
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hbubble :
Off topic what lipstick are you wearing?
2026-05-20 01:10:02
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KTay :
I’m glad I came across your video. I need to do this! I put everyone before myself. I’m an empath so I take on everyone’s feelings too. Perimenopause is also helping kick focusing on myself more into gear too 😂
2026-05-22 20:07:44
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j2hart :
You are so well spoken, I thank you.
2026-05-14 01:29:36
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everyday.with.samantha :
Can you discuss emotional labor in relation to de-centering?
2026-06-01 16:05:50
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lulubell 🇦🇺 :
For the first 12mths of focusing on healing yourself, did he not emotionally drift and pull away himself (or maybe didn’t even notice?)
2026-05-14 03:15:02
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Awinoooo :
Such a good point!
2026-05-15 19:54:37
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Kim Herman :
This could cause the end of a marriage, like you said . We don’t even realize how much we are giving up.
2026-06-01 23:03:38
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Sara Treadwell :
I think this is a normal part of any relationship that is going to endure long term. the people closest to us should be supporting us in our healing journeys ❤️
2026-05-12 19:33:07
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FeliciaV🙏🏾🇺🇸 :
This is where I am
2026-06-08 14:20:27
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Chas :
Currently on this journey.. I would love to hear about your process.. books? Therapy? Diet? Anything and everything ♥️♥️♥️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
2026-05-30 18:24:16
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Violet3508 :
what type of therapy was helpful for you?
2026-06-02 04:04:19
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CuriouslyCurious :
Yes! Been doing this in all relationships for years!
2026-06-01 04:33:44
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Whitney Waites :
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2026-05-20 13:44:37
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Nelysworld :
But he wasn’t unhappy that you didn’t made him a focus anymore? He also had to change and did he do the work too?
2026-05-21 18:08:19
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Daryle C. Tibbs :
Always put the oxygen mask on yourself first. Always.
2026-06-02 12:01:22
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