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RagingUnicornz :
I also did this. About 3 years ago. My husband didn’t adapt well. I’m pretty sure we are on the break as we speak. We don’t fight really anymore. But we don’t interact much otherwise. I no longer feed into his interests or energy and he never fed into mine before so I can’t really expect him to feed them now. I’ve realized how empty the whole thing was without me constantly pouring into it.
2026-05-18 01:26:29
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cronchcronchcrunchy :
I just realized that I’ve never centered my husband lol which is probably why I’m so happy with my marraige
2026-05-19 17:08:09
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Mohawk-MCMLXXVII :
My husband and I have been together 16 years and 3 years ago I made a conscious effort to do this exact thing…. Never been happier. He’s so much more calm and centered and less angry and I am not resentful which makes me a lot less angry.
2026-05-18 00:08:06
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Catherine Yay :
I decentered my hubby by taking a travel job & realizing how much more time I had to care for ME for the 1st time in forever. He dislikes being in a LDR b/c I’m not available to serve him 24/7. This is the happiest I’ve ever been.
2026-05-19 09:06:27
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Carissa Miles :
I’m about to decenter everyone. Husband and children. I have to have an identity outside of them so that I can truly show up for them as my best self
2026-05-21 17:04:19
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𝒜𝓎𝓁𝒾𝓃 ☽ :
My issue is I start to detach if I do this.. like I become so focused on me it’s like I feel so disconnected from them
2026-05-19 23:50:00
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🍉katie :
It really is happy wife, happy life.
2026-05-18 12:57:24
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Shelby Joyce :
I’m in the beginning stages of this and I love it. I don’t think my husband really knows how to handle it, but I don’t really care. We’ve been together for 30 years and the focus has always been on him and what I can do to make him happy. I’m at a stage in my life where it’s time to focus on me, and that’s what I’m doing.
2026-05-18 14:57:39
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SickofMormon :
I did this and it didn't help. he doubled down. I'm divorcing.
2026-05-20 05:48:24
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🩷 a n g e l 🩷 :
I started doing Pilates daily and walking and doing my own thing. I remember he would scream at me that you always seem to have time for Pilates lol
2026-05-18 19:19:42
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☽ ✨ 𝙺𝚊𝚌𝚎𝚢 ✨☽ :
Finally a name for what I’ve been going thru. I’ve lost 100lb, I’ve fallen in love with myself and now I’m questioning many areas of life
2026-05-21 14:09:22
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Hamsa :
I started doing this automatically out of resentment at first and then realised that he really didn't care or notice that I was trying to "make him happy" and life became easier. He wasn't mad at me for it and I had an epiphany that it was all in my head and I took that responsibility without him even asking for any of it. I'm so much at peace now. Sometimes it pmo in certain situations but I tell him: "if u lived alone would you have asked someone to do it for u?"
2026-05-18 05:17:14
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Shope :
Yes when you STOP sacrificing your own needs/wants it chips aways at the resentment.
2026-05-18 13:03:18
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piperpepper1010 :
I feel like my husband centers me a lot. And I’ll center him at times too. As long as it’s reciprocal, let it be🥰 interdependence over codependency all day errrday
2026-05-19 14:23:15
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STYLISA :
I’ve always believed this. You have to prioritise your own needs. I also don’t believe that we should put the responsibility for our happiness in the hands of other people, regardless to who they are. A happier you doesn’t just benefit you, it benefits those around you. What could be better than that!
2026-05-18 06:43:19
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Nicole :
Mine said, “all you want to do is train.” I compete in a sport. I told him yes, that’s true. I can do that now that the kids are older and more independent. I told him to make some friends like I had done.
2026-05-25 18:25:56
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Chronically Positive Lezli :
I decentered my husband due to the absolute necessity of chronic illness. I am so much happier and our marriage is better. My husband genuinely didn't realize I was centering him. He thought that was just how I was.
2026-05-19 02:12:09
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Novachick :
“I realized how empty the whole thing was without me constantly pouring into it.” 💔
2026-05-20 00:39:01
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Cherry Knits🍒 :
Girl you said no alcohol in pt 1. My husband has removed all the alcohol from our house. Things are changing for the better. Idk if you remember my comment on your vid but essentially I was saying haha nice try I’m not doing that. 2 weeks in and already my sleep is so much better. I’m sure there are other things that are improving too
2026-05-22 16:40:45
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KatieDid :
My husband lives in an RV during the week. It’s life changing
2026-05-21 01:52:14
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SoulTimeBee :
I’ve had to decenter everyone! Lifelong codependent/people pleaser. it’s been a process but it’s so worth it!
2026-05-19 12:38:38
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Melissa :
I did this as well about 3 years ago. Took my health seriously lost the weight that was holding me back and making me unhappy. I had to put myself and my health first. Our marriage is better than it’s ever been. We’re both happier kids are happier.
2026-05-19 11:31:34
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Senator Ballz :
I need to decenter everyone. I’m drowning. And the guilt for not having anything left to give is even heavier. 🫤
2026-05-21 15:10:08
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skibonghe :
I’m more interested in how happy YOU are in this new relationship and how satisfied you are with yourself?
2026-05-18 09:38:22
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Yoga with Cat Fitzpatrick :
I’ve been taking a weaving class every Wednesday, like blocking out my work calendar and driving to a weaving studio for 3 1/2 hours, and I’ve also been volunteering more in the evenings so my husband is needed to make more meals. We don’t have kids yet, I’m just more comfortable cooking so I generally cook more. I’ve been so pleasantly surprised by how much better and more levelheaded. I feel now that I dedicate multiple hours a week to spending time on my own stuff, and I’m also pleasantly surprised by how much he actually seems to miss me and be excited to see me when I get home. We have always gotten along great and enjoyed spending time together, but if you spend all of your time together, you end up in a rut eventually! Our conversations are so much more fun when we have some time apart to learn new things etc
2026-05-19 15:19:26
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