@burned_notbroken: Relationship burnout doesn’t happen loudly or quickly, but there are clear signs it is happening. #burnedoutpursuer #emotionalsafety #relationshipburnout #breakuptok #relationshiprepair

CurlyFox :

I started listening to this thinking I would be aware of these signs were something my husband is doing. And now crying, because all of those are me......

Monnia Oropeza :

It sounds like they are just matching the other person’s energy who needs to step up.

ashleylauren_421💙🌈🍉 :

this is exactly where I'm at right now and he doesn't even notice

Sonsa🦇 :

I just started to become detached this week. I'm tired. I love him and I want to be with him, but his issues are so big idk if I can keep going

toehmatos :

I knew I checked out when I just didn’t care anymore and I stopped talking. He thought we were doing great, I was done.

loveolocs :

I am the partner with emotional burnout. I don’t know if I even want to revive this relationship.

liv ✧˖°.☪︎.𖥔 ݁ ˖ :

This is exactly me. I left. We’re 3 months into a 6 month separation. How do I then navigate a “half way point” conversation?

Dumbpty :

my bf said to me that he is confused about what he’s feeling are for me and unsure if he should go through with our relationship. He said he started feel numb from the constant bickering. How do I know if if should fight for it or if i should give him space? how do i know not to step on the fine line between self respect and wanting to fix our relationship

Sole :

This is me and I guess I’m actually slipping away

Britney Brazell :

I feel sooooooooooo lonely. 😞

Nonkywood :

I am going through every one of these. I'm actually ok away from the home but once back I m in bed by 8pm. i have always wanted things to be good but realise that my needs are never met, worse thing is i rarely ask for anything. i pay the majority of the bills and take care of most household stuff. im no longer cooking, shopping or cleaning up after him. I've asked him to leave my home but he is sitting tight. I feel used and like a mother but I also feel sorry for him

Sister Hazel :

at this point change isnt gonna fix it. you mean to tell me he's gonna change now that im checked out? why couldn't he do this the last 100 times we had this conversation?

silentscalpel_ :

god this is so stupid but this is literally my secret backup account and I’ve just been watching a ton of your videos on loop. I’m in a house where I can’t pursue therapy rn but my partner and I are on a break and your videos are exactly what we’ve been going through. I’d love to get a message or a reach out from you so I could talk to someone about this. There’s so much sitting on my chest and his reposts are all about moving on and trying to come back better but he promised me we’d be on a break. I’m drowning.

itiswhatitis :

I'm exactly like this because it has been 3 years since he cheated and he still refuses to answer questions, just I dont know and I dont remember.

Rayne ♡🌧 :

someone repost this for me, Im so fkn tired

Christian Huls :

Just to add to #4, when we DO reach out connection, we are often rejected.

Thea | Life in Melbourne 🇦🇺 :

All of this is me. At this point I’m just so tired.

abraxxadabra :

i lived this but he insisted on remaining stuck in his ego so now im moving on… my nervous system is busted

Aliecake :

Noah Archuleta :

I messed up trying to message you to ask if you offer 1 on 1 convos.

CathyC :

My boyfriend and I never talk about anything deep. When I tried to talk to him about a health issue I’m having he brushed it off. I was sad and told him so. He got really mad and defensive. I’ve now shut down and gone quiet

EP Mac :

O wow YIKES. That’s me. Slowly slowly disappearing from this 38 yr marriage relationship. I am soooo alone , empty nothing left to give , I don’t even want to receive anything from him now . I just wanted his attention for yr.s always wondering why I wanted him more than he seemed to want me . Seems he is a Dismissive Avoidant now realizing this I am so angry that I carried us for all this time .He always blamed me for Wanting to much or I was too much sheesh. Thanks for U content

elktktp :

I was this partner, but unfortunately before I got the chance to fully process I was becoming detached and thus being the one to end the relationship (in fact, during the relationship I was actively shaming myself for it, instead of accepting that im burnt out, i still tried to force myself to stay attached), my ex ended the relationship themself. it's just a little frustrating bc that then reignited my anxious attachment and all my effort and chasing energy, instead of having been able to settle and leave in that detached space. i started to shame myself even further for not putting in effort in the end of the relationship, even though i gave so much and the reason i stopped was bc i was burnt out. that its my fault it ended bc i didnt give enough :/

fofo :

I offered my lady space and she preferred small talk here and there. What things can I do to help better the situation? I’m aware of the wrong I have done throughout the relationship. I’m working towards improving. Aside from that, are there other things I can focus on? Btw I appreciate your videos!

rub :

what if we both feel and act this way?