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kim :

Stop feeding your anxiety with obsession. Don’t stalk their social media in order to creep their exes. Don’t ask for reassurance. Don’t ask them if you’re better than their ex. They’re an ex for a reason. Don’t ask questions because the more details you’re given, the more your brain will create intrusive thoughts and movies, which in turn will cause your RJ (insecurities) to spike. When an intrusive thought appears, don’t fight it. Don’t rationalize it. You have to sit in the anxiety and not judge it. Let the thought come and go without attaching any meaning to it. Then go back to doing what you were originally doing. Eventually, you’ll rewire your brain to think that these images aren’t threatening whatsoever. It’s not the images that hurt, it’s the emotions attached to them. Once the emotion is gone, the retroactive jealousy is gone. I’m going through this right now, and I’ve made significant progress. If you’re an RJ sufferer, you’re afraid of something. Maybe you think you’re not good enough for your partner (in bed or otherwise). You feel the urge to ask questions and to dig further until you find the answer in hopes that it will alleviate some of the pain. It won’t. It NEVER does. It might scratch the RJ itch for a brief amount of time, but this is just temporary. Soon after it just bleeds and itches even more. Resist the urge to chase certainty in order to avoid anxiety and/or jealousy! It’s important to know what fears and insecurities are causing the RJ. And remember, your RJ spike will eventually subside. Your feelings always subside. Ride them through, knowing that you’ll come out victorious on the other end.

ꫂ ၴႅၴ :

wait so am not the only one?

lexii <3 :

can’t repost js know i was here

𝓚𝓮𝓵𝓬𝓮💋 :

Guilty

🎀 𝓢𝓸𝓯𝓲𝓪 🎀 :

if yo‍ur anx‍iety co‍mes mo‍re fr‍om yo‍ur thou‍ghts th‍an yo‍ur act‍ual li‍fe, re‍ad Head‍lock by Cel‍iane Vire‍lle. t‍he sh‍ift th‍at bo‍ok ga‍ve me w‍as cra‍zy.

bnuuy :

not only his past 😘

my.navi_er :

i stopped doing that but damn

zarrrrrrra :

too speficic i js cant repost thiss😭

Ashlie Finholdt :

user03849374 :

jujur yg ini kena di gw

kamille :

I gotta stop

💰 :

tiktok search be messy

mahilig sa kape :

y this so relatable 😂

𝑽𝒂𝒍𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒂 :

BROOO DIS IS SO REALL

chloe :

oof