@sbiery: I’ve had many dreams of him cheating over the years after his first affair. I can’t remember the details of each one, but they all had the same thing in common: his absolute indifference to my pain. It’s a feeling I can vividly remember, even when the details get fuzzy. He had me feeling crazy even in my dreams. How someone can watch you breaking and not react is maddening and terrifying. I would be so panicked when I woke up, that I’d have to wake him to help me calm down. And he’d comfort me, hugging me, and tell me that it was just a dream. He’d look me in my eyes and assure me he wasn’t having an affair and that there was no one else. He didn’t with such conviction that I believed there was absolutely no way he could say that to me if it wasn’t true. So I’d calm down and believe it was all in my head. I’d let him hold me the rest of the night and even felt a bit safer in his arms because who could lie like that? #nightmares #betrayal #cheating #divorce #cantsleep
Has he moved out now? Not having him around should help you heal better.
2026-05-12 16:38:26
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DianeM :
The cover-up is always harder to accept than the actual offense.
2026-07-08 17:40:46
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simplymeme0727 :
I’ve lived this for 20 years. Now I am just totally numb.
2026-05-12 13:28:35
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Shannon :
I think it’s like being in love with a character or cartoon, you can love them but the whole time they were never a real person
2026-05-12 12:15:49
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MannyThoughts :
The subconscious knows.
2026-05-12 14:08:04
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Winesnobb :
was married 20 years took me 5 yrs to feel normal again - try really hard to focus on YOU
2026-05-12 11:26:30
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Garo :
may God bring you peace.
2026-05-12 07:57:57
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baxtersMom :
37 years married and i will never be the same. never
2026-05-12 20:16:12
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AB ATX :
We will never understand it because our brains are not wired that way. I'm sorry you're going through all of this. It truly is such a terrible feeling.
2026-05-12 10:10:41
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Fanndr :
I’m not smart enough to give you any really helpful advice…. but I must say that your verbiage and emotion and delivery are truly compelling & spell binding. You’re a smart and lovely person and (from reading these comments) I know that we are all squarely on your side. We want you to be ok. ❤️
2026-05-12 14:29:50
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Corinna :
Listen to your dreams. Start writing them down. You’ll understand later. The answers to your confusion are all there.
2026-07-02 19:14:14
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Steph :
You deserve so much better than this. I hope you get through this and find real happiness and peace
2026-05-13 03:39:42
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Rick Frykas :
move on meet a different person
2026-05-12 07:46:00
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Justadad304 :
I went through this before I ever found out, and I think the nightmares are our bodies, knowing something is wrong and trying to warn us. I two was reassured when I talked to her about it, much like you were.
2026-05-12 12:50:51
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andtic7 :
Sometimes I think that dreams have meanings and your subconscious was telling you back then that things weren't right. Guard your heart!
2026-06-07 12:16:07
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Michelle Meuter Smith :
Thank you for validating all these things that I also went through 13 years ago. Before TikTok or any kind of Support that was out there. I did join a divorce support group while I was going through my divorce and that definitely helped but it’s you still feel crazy and like you’re the only one going through it and now just hearing you helps validate some of my past trauma
2026-06-12 10:10:38
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ThorLab🐶🇨🇦 :
The trauma is real. I’m so sorry. 💕💕
2026-05-12 13:49:33
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lululucy054🆘🇺🇸 :
I’m so sorry about this part. Every time I see you come up I remember that you are in the most difficult part of this transition. Dear, you aren’t crazy. He was manipulative and deceitful. There will come a day where you will be so happy to be free from those burdens on your intuition. And it will feel amazing. I promise. 💙💙💙
2026-05-12 16:14:16
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Darren :
Time will heal.
2026-05-12 09:52:29
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Greg Elsberry :
It was said with deep conviction because he believed it. Compartmentalization is so strange to me.
2026-05-14 23:52:51
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Trish :
im sooo sorry 🥰
2026-05-12 18:40:57
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kimster :
So sorry you are going through all this confusion. It’s like they have an alternative reality. I remember overhearing my ex-husband say to a friend “oh I tell my wife if she ever has issues that she should tell me“. That was so far from the truth of how he treated me. He never said that and whenever I had an issue, he was always defensive. Felt like the twilight zone.
2026-05-14 05:34:46
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Christine Oconnor1960 :
it's like your soul knew
2026-06-10 00:49:08
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Grammifun :
We all want you to be better. Your struggle is being shared with so many others. You are incredibly smart. Use that power to stop thinking about him and start thinking about you!!!
2026-06-29 01:23:14
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Mary “the grinch” :
You’re definitely not alone. It has been about almost 2 yrs for me and I’m about just finally there myself over this finally. It has been a long journey and progress of healing and learning to Love myself again. Sleep still is crazy for me.
2026-06-09 08:30:28
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