@anthonypillarella: Replying to @cl0senessless Went a bit deeper on this than expected. One of the most common reasons I've seen people accidentally come across as rude is vocal sharpness. They try to speak clearly, but shrink their vowels too small and sound much harsher than they intend to. Imo, record yourself talking. If this ISN'T the case, start looking at other parts of your tone of voice (like tonal variance and emphasis). #socialskills #charisma #communicationskills #autism #SelfImprovement
This helped talking to my parents I think I usually come off mellow but the topic surprised so I talked louder and sharper
2026-08-25 03:34:50
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Umber.L :
The difference between an interested person asking questions and a contrarian being intentionally annoying is often tone and body language.
2026-05-13 16:45:54
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theAMAZINGversed :
Genuinely me sometimes
2026-05-12 17:57:43
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robodocudrama :
As someone who has consciously developed social skills to a point where people describe me as charismatic but still has problems with this, this video is super helpful! Really useful insight.
2026-05-13 17:22:02
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Anthony | How to People :
Addendum
2026-05-12 17:35:51
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THSEUSNA :
grow up.. listen to whats being said.. respond accordingly.. solve the thing.. move on..
2026-05-12 23:57:15
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sidoniagirl2016 :
Pitch and volume variation is so good at getting attention that we use the extreme version to sell things in crowds ('GET your HOt dOGS') and for literal ambulance sirens
2026-05-12 22:41:45
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Crazy__Phill :
People will also take it as rudeness or aggressiveness when they're confronted with words they just don't know. I don't know how many times I've been perceived as rude just because I used "higher level" vocabulary that the person I was speaking to didn't understand. It is often thought that I do it on purpose to make them sound or feel stupid, and that's far from the case 🤣. It comes back around to me though because I also get made fun of when I accidentally let my texan accent slip out in public.
2026-05-26 08:03:12
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Gray :
My dad soooo has this problem. Just the other day he was giving me a bike. He wanted me to wear a helmet when riding. Fair request, he had a bad bike accident once that would have left him paralyzed if it weren’t for his helmet. But his tone was a sharp and accusatory “you need wear a helmet!” With a tone that made it seem like he think I like scattering my brains across the sidewalk. It’s so frustrating, because I know he means well, but his anxiety almost makes him treat others as if he thinks they are stupid
2026-05-21 18:54:25
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Dodger :
Ohhhhh I hate people having a sharp tone it’s really triggering 😭
2026-05-13 14:48:37
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Eleleeee :
I feel it's important to note that gender presentation plays a big part in this too: people tend to be much less forgiving of sharp tone from women and quicker to interpret boldness and certainty as rudeness.
2026-05-13 05:18:15
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