@anthonypillarella: Replying to @cl0senessless Went a bit deeper on this than expected. One of the most common reasons I've seen people accidentally come across as rude is vocal sharpness. They try to speak clearly, but shrink their vowels too small and sound much harsher than they intend to. Imo, record yourself talking. If this ISN'T the case, start looking at other parts of your tone of voice (like tonal variance and emphasis). #socialskills #charisma #communicationskills #autism #SelfImprovement

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cl0senessless
SAETIA :
Thank you for taking the time to respond to me ♥️
2026-05-12 18:16:52
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saltshark99
SaltShark99 :
This helped talking to my parents I think I usually come off mellow but the topic surprised so I talked louder and sharper
2026-08-25 03:34:50
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umber.l
Umber.L :
The difference between an interested person asking questions and a contrarian being intentionally annoying is often tone and body language.
2026-05-13 16:45:54
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t.a.versed
theAMAZINGversed :
Genuinely me sometimes
2026-05-12 17:57:43
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robodocudrama
robodocudrama :
As someone who has consciously developed social skills to a point where people describe me as charismatic but still has problems with this, this video is super helpful! Really useful insight.
2026-05-13 17:22:02
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anthonypillarella
Anthony | How to People :
Addendum
2026-05-12 17:35:51
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thseusna
THSEUSNA :
grow up.. listen to whats being said.. respond accordingly.. solve the thing.. move on..
2026-05-12 23:57:15
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sidoniagirl42069
sidoniagirl2016 :
Pitch and volume variation is so good at getting attention that we use the extreme version to sell things in crowds ('GET your HOt dOGS') and for literal ambulance sirens
2026-05-12 22:41:45
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crazy__phill
Crazy__Phill :
People will also take it as rudeness or aggressiveness when they're confronted with words they just don't know. I don't know how many times I've been perceived as rude just because I used "higher level" vocabulary that the person I was speaking to didn't understand. It is often thought that I do it on purpose to make them sound or feel stupid, and that's far from the case 🤣. It comes back around to me though because I also get made fun of when I accidentally let my texan accent slip out in public.
2026-05-26 08:03:12
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lovelydeck
Gray :
My dad soooo has this problem. Just the other day he was giving me a bike. He wanted me to wear a helmet when riding. Fair request, he had a bad bike accident once that would have left him paralyzed if it weren’t for his helmet. But his tone was a sharp and accusatory “you need wear a helmet!” With a tone that made it seem like he think I like scattering my brains across the sidewalk. It’s so frustrating, because I know he means well, but his anxiety almost makes him treat others as if he thinks they are stupid
2026-05-21 18:54:25
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icewolf74103
Dodger :
Ohhhhh I hate people having a sharp tone it’s really triggering 😭
2026-05-13 14:48:37
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beanieb00bie
Eleleeee :
I feel it's important to note that gender presentation plays a big part in this too: people tend to be much less forgiving of sharp tone from women and quicker to interpret boldness and certainty as rudeness.
2026-05-13 05:18:15
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