Opallauryn
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brittni0122 :
the biggest hang-up for me in my processing is that I can't seem to put myself into his shoes because I would never be able to do what he did. and I so desperately want to so that I can make sense of it all
2026-05-14 00:32:56
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PropCap :
I went through the same thing this past year with my fiancée who I have been with since I was 17 (12 years). He kept a younger girlfriend a secret for the last 18 mos and lived a double life. I found the texts. The gf didn’t know about me, but after I found out, she chose to stick around, and he chose to be with her. I moved out and he moved her into our apartment of these last 8 yrs within the month. Into my bed that I bought and left behind. I am also in Texas, but my fiancée and I spent a lot of time in Chicago in recent years before I found out, and it will always hold special memories for me. Finding your account and someone going through something so similar has meant the world.
2026-05-13 22:39:48
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DGo :
A few weeks ago I read a comment under another video that will forever help protect my heart and identity; “inside every person you know is a person you don’t know”. And that’s not everyone is…selfish, self serving,devious…but it’s also made me reflect on who *I* am…what I share, what I’m fearful of sharing and being vulnerable about…I’m still reeling from that comment.
2026-05-13 15:16:56
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Cassa Balla :
He would have let you marry him. One of the hardest things I still have so much anger about is the big life decisions I made without all of the information. Selling a house that was just mine and used the down payment for a house that was ours, marriage, allowing him to be a father figure in my daughter’s lives… I always think back on that house I gave up, and my financial independence. I’m now financially dependent on him. It’s a terrible feeling.
2026-05-14 11:51:22
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Megan Davies Tattoo :
As someone that’s first marriage was built around the idea that divorce was never an option, he weaponized that. He thought I’d never leave no matter how little he did to contribute. I’m now a firm believer that divorce is always an option, and we should act accordingly. We should show up every day the best we can to make sure it doesn’t become the option.
2026-05-15 16:35:49
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Sam :
Being lied to like that also tends to tarnish the good memories too because they’re all shrouded in “what was he lying to me about then too?”
2026-05-13 15:01:52
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mum9695 :
Have you looked at affair recovery? They have resources for people who do not stay together as well
2026-05-17 16:42:10
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R :
I'm so proud of you for continuing to share this incredibly difficult part of your life.
2026-05-13 16:02:37
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Lilly9 :
It made me think that if someone knew THAT MUCH about me, and could still reject me….it feels hopeless.
2026-05-13 22:37:30
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VeteranWidowMom :
Thank you for processing this out-loud with us. 🫶🏼❤️
2026-05-13 18:14:43
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khalicreates :
The double life they live has so much of their personality you didn’t even know existed. Seeing them now is like you don’t even know who they are at all.
2026-05-13 20:47:09
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james :
literally gut wrenching to know that from the very moment you first met them they were already lying to you... it's the worst pain. been almost a year since my breakup and i still can't make sense of it. it still hurts and i still cry, but at least i'm not being led on and betrayed now.
2026-05-14 02:29:38
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Its_Beets :
Keep processing sweet girl 💙🫶🏼 the reason he couldn’t be honest with you is because he couldn’t be honest with himself. There were parts of him that he was ashamed/regretful of and when we haven’t accepted those parts of us we can’t be honest about them. You are just much more healed.
2026-05-14 00:38:17
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kay :
It’s along the same sentiment as it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I would have rather my years went towards building a lifetime together with someone honest rather than loving him at all.
2026-05-13 14:02:35
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Reanna | Solo Life 🌻 :
I couldn't relate more to this. It's so hard to process and accept
2026-05-13 14:59:52
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Spookyoatmeal :
I was with my now ex for almost 14 years. So many of his lies came out after I told him I wanted a divorce that I felt like I no longer knew who he was. It's a crazy feeling to go from living with someone you loved to living with someone who feels like a stranger.
2026-05-14 02:06:27
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Xx.Chlobi.xX :
my ex swore that the years he spent with me were the best of his life, swore he still loved me, swore he had no intention of getting with the other girl he told me he was in love with. It took them 4 days to get together and slowly I realised most of what he said was a lie so I stopped holding everything he said so close and two years on I feel so much happier. I once told him I don't think I could live without him, so I guess I'm a liar too 😊 you got this! 🫂
2026-06-07 09:53:55
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Finneas the Therapy Dog :
I feel like I was listening to my internal voice.i have been with my husband for 25 years and it is all starting to come to the surface for me.but i feel strong enough to get thru where in the past i wouldn’t have
2026-05-13 15:16:17
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Alyce Niven :
i found out my husband had cheated on me for 18years. my world centred around him. he cheated in the first week, affairs that lasted years, one night stands. I really trusted him. A life you have to re write history, the happiest days of my life, wedding day, babies, buying a house. he cheated. there are no words the emotions have to move through you. for me, I will never trust again.
2026-05-15 02:40:17
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Jetstream_dan_ :
Muchas gracias por hacer estos video… ❤️🩹
2026-05-15 15:30:43
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megs :
i just want to hug you. it’s so confusing to rationalize the partner you (had) or maybe didn’t. i struggle to fathom what was real, if any of it was.
2026-05-13 23:47:27
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yam :
I wish the best in your healing journey 💕you seem so pure..good things, better things will come your way for sure
2026-05-14 06:55:48
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NicolaC 🇪🇺🇬🇧 :
This might not apply but some people say things at the end of a relationship as a bit of a power thing… either an attempt to get you back, or a way to unsettle you. Or it could be that he finally realises what he had. 🤷♀️
2026-05-13 17:42:47
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Shane :
There is no response, for me realization they said what they said. For their own closure knowing exactly what that last message will do to you. Finding your own closure is a journey on its own. Happy trails ma’am, it will be longer yet shorter than you can imagine.
2026-05-30 21:29:31
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Leslie Gonzalez :
I am recently dating a new person after divorce and the doubt bleeds into this new relationship. I start thinking, if my ex-husband could lie to me so easily, what can I expect from this new person. It’s so hard to get over that
2026-06-04 19:05:10
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