@travisambrosecoach: My partner’s response in this video is what did it for me. So often, we think we need to “lock down” a relationship. We ask “where is this going?” and push for certainty, hoping it will soothe our anxiety. But for someone with commitment fears (like a Fearful Avoidant), that pressure feels like a trap and activates their instinct to flee. When she said this, it communicated: “My happiness isn’t dependent on you committing to me right now.” This removed the burden and created a space of freedom. And in that freedom, I chose to commit. This is secure attachment in action. Learning how to create this kind of safety, instead of demanding certainty, is a culmination of many different relational skills. It’s all inside my program, Relational Alchemy (link in bio) ❤️🔥 . . . #fearfulavoidant #commitmentissues #secureattachment #relationships #relationshipanxiety
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Wednesday 13 May 2026 19:42:14 GMT
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Mari ♡ :
I was the partner who was patient and told him we can take it one step at a time…he still got overwhelmed and left
2026-05-19 18:08:22
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lutzzz2309 :
How do you deal with deactivation and how do you know it is the right time to set a boundary with an avoidant?
2026-05-14 14:09:31
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user5882058453139 :
serious question here: I (AP, 35 yo), going near 4 years together with my DA (33 yo). Never thought he would be a DA when we first met, but 1.5 years into the relationship he started expressing doubts. Yes I will be ok without him, but probably won't have children. We go to EFT therapy now, but I am also not 25 yo any more. How to deal with a DA at 35 where everything, but the attachment, is good?
2026-05-13 20:37:58
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user6891220933984 :
😍😍
2026-05-16 15:49:07
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Annie Nikoli :
How long did that take really? Mine told me he is not comfortable commiting and I told him one year later that “I feel like you press the brakes every time you come closer to me so just to let you know I’m not looking for a relationship with you since you’re not ready for it, let’s just have fun and the connection we do have for now.” ✨
2026-05-14 17:08:10
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