R. J. Ledet, MD, PhD, MBA
Region: US
Wednesday 13 May 2026 21:01:19 GMT
564589
64522
857
28663
Music
Download
Comments
Jamie9498 :
but but they don't listen the first 4 times I ask in the nice tone until I start yelling...
2026-05-14 01:48:43
1778
🌻Zeeh🌻 :
I’m not asking nicely 5 times, sorry!
2026-05-14 12:07:53
628
mojanpawara0 :
there's a contradiction that took me embarrassingly long to see, I kept telling my son to be kinder to his friends while talking to him in a tone I would never use with anyone I actually respected. the gap between who I was trying to raise and how I was actually speaking to him was enormous, and I had convinced myself the words were what mattered. there's a line I keep coming back to from this book my colleague from work recommended it's called "When you cant reach them anymore" by Daniel Hartmann it writes about how kids stop bringing real things home not because they don't need you, but because the emotional temperature there has become something they manage rather than rest in. I remember reading that and going very still. your tone doesn't just communicate a mood, it trains the nervous system on what closeness feels like. I stopped trying to fix my son's communication and started watching my own. that's when things actually changed between us.
2026-07-03 14:50:57
158
Susie :
And the tone they accept from others when they get older ☹️
2026-05-14 00:13:36
324
Mercedes :
Im Trying 😔 all I do is YELL. They do not get it when i speak soft
2026-06-24 23:21:38
16
kg333 :
Man, my husband needs to hear this. Thank you.
2026-05-13 22:08:50
68
Sean Draw 🇮🇪🇦🇺 :
I often apologise for how I speak to my kids. Not because I just yell. Sometimes they don't listen until I yell. I am actually very chill 🤣but after I yell, I feel terrible, and I think, they are only kids, I should be more mature. I am trying my best, but refuse to also raise a brat that can do what they want because I didn't tell ya know. Anyway, love this content. I want to be the best I can be for my kids and always open to parenting suggestions
2026-05-14 03:56:29
169
btsarmy07_2013 :
Can a child unlearn a communication pattern if the parent stops. Also realistically how long would that actually take before a child models the parents “new and calmer” comma pattern? Thank you
2026-05-14 10:31:18
79
Abby Does Beauty 35+ :
Saying sorry after you get mad is wildly helpful. We all get mad but don’t let them sit in your anger
2026-06-30 18:13:02
18
andrearotz :
How do I help my daughter who goes from 0-100 over nothing. Something falls the world is ending and she’s crying. I want her to know her feeling are valid but I also want her to know little things are not worth getting THAT emotional over.
2026-05-13 21:28:36
61
Baddest.inc :
I know I try to work on it 😭 but damn I am so triggered.
2026-05-14 09:23:57
23
Diana :
Listen...I started this when my baby was 1.5 years old. When he's doing something he's not, I kneel down on the floor so we're eye to eye and I speak SUPER softly. Firm and calm, but soft. Now he's almost 2.5 and he says "Mommy's being serious..." He knows!! And being serious has nothing to do with being loud.
2026-05-15 22:00:36
16
therealqueenb89 :
Lord I need to fix myself so badddd!
2026-05-14 16:59:32
12
SharpCrew :
Guilty as charged! 😳😳😳
2026-05-15 14:11:43
6
EarlthePearl :
He’s right. As adults my children struggle to hear me because my natural voice cadence is low, they thought it was loud. No, y’all didn’t listen until I got loud.🙂 I agree that tone matters because my children are yellers. When possible: take the time to go to them, disrupt the distractions, and direct in a firm calm tone.❤️
2026-05-15 11:29:41
2
Maliviwe Mazeke🇿🇦 :
What about school influence? They spend more time there.
2026-06-17 23:15:24
6
Queen mamma :
when we need a pause what do we.say?? I need a break and step away? cause they be following me
2026-05-13 23:51:36
20
ParadoxicalByNature🇨🇦 :
I legit feel like I’m starting to nag just like the way my mom used to talk to me. Now I can’t help talking like that to my kids
2026-06-02 23:12:03
6
Joy MS❤️ :
keep telling us! Don't tire out. am steadily changing.
2026-05-14 08:32:07
10
AR :
But how do I work on this when I ask the same thing over and over or they aren’t listening and escalating
2026-05-14 01:54:40
11
T o n y a 🦋 :
Speak to them in a tone you would be proud to hear Come out of them 🙌🏼 its my practice 🙏🏼
2026-05-15 13:24:13
7
CreatorOfYourOwnDestiny :
You are out here retraining parents and salvaging relationships!! Thank you!
2026-05-13 23:30:46
6
Matt Corl-Cox :
well im screwed then. lol
2026-05-14 12:09:17
7
Susana Rodriguez :
Heavy on the “kids are people too”
2026-05-14 18:51:47
9
shazia.m.alam :
Hoooow do I fix it they’re 10 and 7 now 😭😩
2026-05-14 17:45:44
5
To see more videos from user @drrussellledet, please go to the Tikwm
homepage.
