The Pottymouth Guru
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The Pottymouth Guru :
Some adults are not overreacting to accountability conversations. They’re reacting to what accountability felt like in their childhood home.
2026-05-14 15:51:36
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Bubble :
As a kid my parents always said “I’m not perfect so don’t expect me to be.” Whenever me and my siblings said anything negative to or about them. I have to explain everything as thoroughly as I can because if someone thinks I’m saying it in a bad way then they’ll get mad at me so I’ll start rambling on and on. I’ve been told to stop over explaining but if I don’t then I get such bad anxiety.
2026-05-14 20:35:07
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Gabby :
if someone cant take accountability in my life, I will immediately cut off the relationship 😅
2026-06-21 13:20:39
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anothernobodyontiktok :
Oop, you just described my entire personality. Ugh fine, I’ll follow you.
2026-05-20 01:35:32
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Mike H :
Is this why I associate things like accountability as punishment?
2026-06-07 17:32:02
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QUEENSlanderYank :
Omg do you have this on a boomer platform I can send to my parents because you just summed up 20 + years of therapy in a couple of minutes 😭👏👀
2026-05-15 18:26:57
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🇨🇦k•m•j✨️ :
I have never had someone explain my experience in words like this before and it MAKES SO MUCH SENSE
2026-05-15 04:20:11
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Alexis :
As a parent I’ve learned that apology has been engrained in me as weak, and now with my kids I try so hard to apologize like it’s no big deal even if inside I’m struggling with my own stuff.
2026-05-15 06:42:16
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Nina Lang :
I am just trying to imagine feeling safe enough to say "that hurt me" as a child.
2026-05-16 18:50:30
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Ashlee | Māmā :
Exactly this. The other day I told my mother I know everyone makes mistakes, and I’m very forgiving but I can’t if you won’t even take accountability for what you’ve done. She didn’t and went on to rewrite reality. I’m done explaining now
2026-06-02 05:41:08
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acresofabundance :
hooooolyyyyyy, you just described my inner script and my parents down to the letter, oh my goodness.
2026-05-26 10:22:19
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Screamingmoist :
also, people who over apologize for literally anything they think might bother someone else. I used to do that
2026-05-20 16:25:53
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Angela Penner :
On the edge of my seat to hear what we can do without over explaining and coming at people with urgency, when they simply refuse to take accountability even when we communicate it as gently as possible. This exact dynamic shows up in my relationship with my mother and my adult romantic relationships. Thank you for speaking on it.
2026-05-15 16:24:29
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Amber Arrington :
this is 100% me. how do i get around this. how do I still advicate for myself and be ok without the other persons validations or acknowledgement
2026-05-15 15:30:12
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MrsK🇸🇬 :
Thank you for connecting even more dots for me. Pinpointing out my behaviour, root cause and my triggers (fighting for accountability). Instant follow!
2026-05-17 04:18:32
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Alexis Hillyard :
Omg you explained my childhood
2026-05-20 23:46:00
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Shashi Seth236 :
Wow, this is such an important conversation 💥
2026-05-14 22:35:58
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cottagehobbit17 :
I am way to tired and high to process this level of Pandora’s box this video opened 😅 but seriously thanks ☺️
2026-05-31 22:15:01
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pink noise :
My last relationship put a lens on this over the past 2 years. I was over contextualizing everything, driving myself nuts. I had my reasons, but I don’t like the version of myself I was becoming — I’m taking the lesson to heart.
2026-05-17 02:26:42
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KRL :
so so so true. then it became power dynamics imitated by siblings too
2026-05-16 20:03:59
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Katye🇨🇦 :
It’s very hard to see your partner be this person and to deal with it and also see it transferring to our children. So while I empathize with him, I also have to protect my children. It’s existing trying to balance everyone.
2026-05-25 01:08:08
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Nikki A :
I have been really struggling with this recently. Contemplating going no contact with my mom because of it because I’m tired of the surface level and no accountability. Also allowing myself to be soft and accept the love my fiancé is trying to give me without feeling like it’s going to disappear
2026-06-22 20:37:03
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psych rebellion :
Excellent post, thank you 💯🥰
2026-05-16 03:42:41
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Boutit212 :
My husband grew up with it. Now I’m trying bc to out parent that… it’s super hard to get him to see it.
2026-05-15 14:50:20
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aspiring_cryptid :
there was a joke in my house that "mom is never wrong." as I got older I realized it was never really a joke, but a rule.
2026-06-03 12:11:55
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