Elly | Counseling Psychologist
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Phill Le-Breton :
What is it when they have said something disrespectful, that you try and talk about it, and every time you try, they walk away or say they won’t
2026-05-17 15:51:37
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user708433480653 :
Not wanting to talk about a situation is a way to get out of the conversation or to get into a heated argument. Because you know how your partner feels about getting something resolved and by putting things off is a deflection technique to prolong the discussion in hopes they will forget it or not talk about it at all.
2026-05-17 16:27:17
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T :
Odds are if you’ve asked yourself if you’re the problem, you’re probably not the problem
2026-06-17 00:03:17
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🐝 Bea :
Side note, your hair is absolutely stunning 🤩
2026-05-16 21:31:08
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poteryal_yeye :
this is hard to understand because where is the line drawn and there reaction is wrong
2026-05-17 05:10:46
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james102282 :
I question myself if I’m the problem all the time
2026-05-22 02:24:20
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Mondrof :
I’ve been in therapy for 2 years to work on my emotional regulation and reactions. However now that I communicate differently, regulate my emotions better and stay silent more, I’m starting to realise I’m not the problem. I was emotionally reacting from a place of self defence which I learnt has stemmed from my childhood. However. My husband is apologising but not changing his behaviour at all. I don’t think he is purposely doing this but I do question if it’s emotional abuse or he just is an avoidant and lacks capacity. Either way the dynamic I am in is not ok and now I’m focusing on putting my energy into me.
2026-05-28 23:44:43
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Jade :
What about the opposite when you keep trying to talk about sensitive situations and that person won’t talk or ever make time to talk because its to emotional for them to talk so things never get addressed.
2026-05-18 08:12:57
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cosmic ✨️ :
I was in Seattle with my brother & I hadn't used the bathroom for over 6 hours so I really needed to go, i asked him to stop at a bathroom so we stopped at Burger King but they would only let paying customers use the bathroom so we went to another but my brother parked us right next to super bright flashing lights (knowing I am suspected epileptic) and acted genuinely confused when I told him we need to leave. i had to yell at him just to get him to leave. we finally found a bathroom after 40 minutes, and when i went to go my brother stayed in the car all pissed off so I came back and told him to get up and help me (I am autistic and have certain support NEEDS, for example i need most talking done for me, i am still learning how to talk to people appropriately.) he said he "didnt realize I wanted him to come with", completely untrue because like I said, he knows my support needs. all he needed to do was ask for the bathroom and stand outside till I was done. so I said "yeah right you are fully aware of my needs." and then he sat back down and refused to go with because he "felt disrespected". i started yelling at him to stop acting like a child and go with me so i can use the bathroom, explaining that I have needed to go for almost an hour. he just kept going on about the way I was acting. refusing to acknowledge the fact i was about to piss myself, he gave in after literally 10 minutes it was insane.
2026-05-18 20:32:32
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Mr. Kaplan :
this is where I'm at, they've labeled me as emotional.
2026-05-16 21:49:31
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chaparritaforlife :
the pattern was: me being asked to respect but not respected
2026-05-20 09:42:39
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Jussie :
thank u.
2026-06-15 00:41:39
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T :
What do I do? I don’t have enough money to get out of here.
2026-05-19 16:17:16
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shelbs :
THANK YOU.
2026-06-08 04:04:10
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Rosanna_1969 :
Thank you for clarifying this❣️
2026-05-17 03:42:20
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Nicola Pearce :
Yes I do think this and blame myself
2026-06-08 07:02:47
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Kimula443 :
😭😭😭😭 💯 thank you for not making me feel crazy 🙏🏽
2026-05-18 10:53:25
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Crystal :
going through this
2026-05-18 14:33:40
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Tara :
I always thought I was the problem because I was the one blowing up and screaming and getting overly emotional during conflict, until I learned about reactive abuse. It's nice to feel validated. but I now know that I cannot have anyone in my life that brings out that side of me, I'd rather be alone.
2026-05-18 13:48:41
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JJ :
Yes did question myself many times
2026-05-16 13:33:02
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Jamsie :
Thank you for explaining this 💜
2026-05-17 09:38:15
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mocheeezyy :
please make this downloadable
2026-06-09 23:41:53
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Beth :
You have literally just described my whole situation. I question myself all the time... but I really feel like this makes so much sense... :(
2026-06-09 14:13:05
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I Am :
Go tell social services what you are explaining, it may help save vulnerable people’s lives from Domestic violence especially children
2026-05-18 05:48:43
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Sariah :
thank you
2026-05-16 23:28:59
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