@thepottymouthguru: A lot of adult conflict patterns make WAY more sense when you understand the childhood nervous system underneath them. Some children learned: 👉 expressing hurt threatened connection 👉 accountability created instability 👉 softness didn’t work 👉 emotional reality disappeared unless they pushed 👉 other people’s emotions mattered more than theirs So later in life, conflict may feel emotionally loaded in ways outsiders don’t fully understand. Some people become: - self-silencing - hyper-independent - “easy” - terrified of burdening others Others become: - emotionally urgent - hypervigilant - pushy around accountability - overwhelmed by defensiveness - terrified of emotional disappearance And both adaptations are usually trying to solve the same attachment fear: 👉 “How do I stay connected without disappearing?” ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #unfuckyourself #thepottymouthguru #childhoodtrauma #attachmentstyles #relationships

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thepottymouthguru
The Pottymouth Guru :
Some adults are not “too sensitive.” Their nervous system was trained to track emotional instability, defensiveness, and disconnection very early in life.
2026-05-16 17:09:58
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sundaysareforsewing
Sundaysareforsewing :
what if those two people end up in a relationship with each other???
2026-06-08 00:04:16
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walkingwiddershins
Justine :
Yup my mom would say all those phrases you said VERBATIM and also “I gave up so much for you girls” referencing not working to raise us. Her choice….
2026-05-17 00:25:18
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rooftop2table
rooftop2table w/ Derek Vincent :
You are SO good at this! Thank you for the way that you explain everything!
2026-05-17 01:13:05
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kerri.farnsworthh
Kerricat66 :
You should write a book.
2026-06-11 13:01:09
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mmmrrrrlllccc
MMM :
Can a person adapt in both ways? I recognise both 😳
2026-05-21 14:54:41
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graberhood2
Graberhood :
Wow, do you have a hidden camera into my brain? My relationship with my parents fits the "easy" child description to a tee.
2026-05-20 10:35:27
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heidygd
heidy :
Can someone develop both styles?
2026-05-16 18:02:44
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isekaimepls
IsekaiMePls🌎 :
thank you for posting
2026-06-19 23:35:21
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destinysjourneytohealth
Destiny Meilleur :
I started my relationship at 16 being the first type of person and then as I tried healing I flopped to the overly emotional type. I’m now trying to work through it
2026-05-19 13:23:21
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jinx130387
Jinx1303 :
all of this is me 😔
2026-06-17 02:47:04
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maddie_inreal_life
Maddie_inreal_life :
Can one person have both of these manifestations? I relate to both depending on the circumstances
2026-07-13 16:29:47
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beccalouise_xo
Becca Laurie692 :
just come across your page, alot of interesting information. are you able to talk about attachment styles? I have disorganised and I hate it
2026-05-30 09:41:10
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ttcatyy
ttcatyy :
Impact
2026-05-17 12:33:19
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disembarrass
Bulletproofcoffee🇳🇿 :
impact
2026-05-24 23:13:07
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klaushausnl
Klaushausnl :
I love covering both sides
2026-05-17 00:08:49
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nurazianie79
nurazianie :
like 80s?. its just..architectures..n..fun toys.
2026-05-17 01:41:02
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esterinity
Esterinity :
Impact ☺️
2026-05-18 14:21:18
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adhdromance
ADHDROMANCE :
Wow -thanks
2026-07-17 11:43:28
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ikdb__
IKDB__ :
I feel like I am trapped in a marriage of those 2 patterns in one relationship. add to that I recently learned I am autistic. your video's are a fresh perspective instead of those scenario's on tiktok that only focus on one issue to trigger a validating thought in the viewers (just my opinion). Thank you!
2026-05-16 21:01:40
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kylamcgregor801
KylaMcGregor601🇨🇦 :
Mine were the expectations. They said them jokingly, words of “motivation” but they were threats that I took seriously. And the better I did the worse it got. “If you don’t get Honors I’m gunna kick your butt to Timbuktu” translated to, “no matter what I do, it will never be good enough.” And now my inner narrative is just that “nothing you ever do will be good enough for anyone”. It’s the foundation that’s cracked but I can’t work on the foundation when the people I trusted in my life are keeping me in a war zone!
2026-05-18 16:52:26
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user863541671844
user863541671844 :
what happens when these two adaptations marry each other?
2026-05-17 22:49:03
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jackabun
A.N. :
I am urgent and flooding and my son has become withdrawn as a result. yuuuuck
2026-06-15 09:28:30
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ttcatyy
ttcatyy :
How can we solve this? Or handle it
2026-05-17 12:33:55
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875lilith
🗽⃢⃢🗿lilith :
my mom Will never acknowledge this, so I am just gonna pay it forward.
2026-05-16 19:52:56
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