@erikagrundon: when the avoidant starts a fight to get space with a secure person #avoidantbehavior #avoidantattachmentstyle #attachmentstyles #anxiousattachment #secureattachment

Simona :

That’s not avoidant. That’s just an uninterested person ..

mememan420 :

HR language is killing me

“Roma” Fremuth ♡ :

my understanding is there are different types of avoidant attachment, I have an avoidant attachment and I don’t act like this. I get quiet, really quiet, and if a partner reaches out to me, I apologize and tell them I’m just tired. 🥲 it’s not something I’m proud of, but I’m working on fixing it so at least I got that going for me. 🤷‍♀️

Kyla :

“We just keep going in circles” literally me just asking when we’re going to hang out again and explaining that people are dating see each other and talk to each other lol

LordPetersWhimzy :

omg then they say that you’re the one with the cycle. lol what the heck

Tammy Ann Taylor :

Mine was really sweet, but he still abandoned me after 1.5 yrs

trenahh :

Whenever I suggest that we breakup I get blocked

urgbutternutty :

that is ... exactly... waiiiit...

sesame :

exactly let's circle back in the next lifetime x

♥️ :

the way this isn't even an exaggeration ...

Jake Crawford :

Left me flabbergasted every time we’d hang up the phone after things like this. One example I have is the day before we talked about what we’d want our wedding to look like. I called the next day, brought it up again because I thought more about it. Argument ensued (more like him yelling and calling me clingy and me just sitting there baffled at what I did wrong lol)

ThriftStoreGuide :

Just hang up and block them they don’t deserve all these words

Bangarang :

so similar to me and my recent ex. did I become secure attachment or something without realizing it 😂

Keep it Enna :

Not the « let’s circle back when you calm tf down »

lavizinha :

Boy i just learned that no experience is exclusive

IntuitiveKiki💙🧿 :

The corporate baddie response is top tier💯😂 I usually just stop talking and let them figure it out on their own. I dont have time to argue. Week 1 I was kind, week 2 I was kind and worked on repair, week 3 with the same pattern, I was dead silent. donezo✔️

Oce.aps :

Timing is crazy

.4LPH40M3G4 :

Oof, I still remember when I’ve been in this position from the other end, I would be insanely overwhelmed and it’s like the straw that broke the camels back, I wouldn’t mean to lash out but any pressure for emotional availability would feel horrible in my system…it was like I was under so much internal pressure, but I didn’t know how to co-regulate with someone else because I didn’t feel safe and I didn’t trust that they’d be able to hold space for me, so I pushed them away instead…now I can acknowledge how someone else feels, express what’s going on for me and lean on someone else a bit more…most avoidants aren’t trying to be assholes, they are really just trying to keep from drowning and don’t know how to express that without feeling that they’re going to break, so anger is expressed instead…not condoning the behaviour but I feel like sometimes understanding context can show us that how someone treats you is how they feel about themselves and not ‘you’…

LaLune :

I hate the cruel switch up part. makes me feel so depressed.

Lavi :

gentle parenting your date basically

Mike W :

yep! I got the whole "i need space you need to respect that, I dont want to talk to you, text you or anything. leave me alone" wish I did this so much earlier

ClassyBabe23 :

Raising the voice 😕😩🤣

Moncheri :