@the_control_code: “He’s never hit me” is the wrong measuring stick. The hitting isn’t where the abuse begins — it’s the enforcement of the control that was always there. Full breakdown + the strangulation data on Substack soon. Link in bio. #coercivecontrol #thecontrolcode #postseparationabuse #BookTok #dvawareness
Thank you for educating people. This is so important.
2026-05-17 14:48:21
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Kat Young :
I can't express how important these post are. Thank you for shar❤️
2026-05-17 18:32:16
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Zoe T :
I wish I was taught more awareness from a young age. I do think secondary schools should include classes about safety in the world, body knowledge and positivity and a basic understanding of finance and managing money. Children are so delicate and pure, it’s mostly the environment that they grow up in, the information that they are fed, that do not allow children to be taught actual facts, before making decisions. At least then, they will have actual information and knowledge of resources, to guide them towards making better choices for themselves.
2026-05-17 23:53:16
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sabamdandia :
YAAAAAS QUEEEEN nailed it! 🔥
2026-05-18 04:01:06
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Pris West | Good Time Girl Pod :
Glad you are taking care of yourself❤️tysm for your content!
2026-05-17 05:30:37
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Naledi Darling :
Why the need for control in the first place?
2026-05-18 02:02:44
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Sassy :
This is such crucial information for women
2026-05-18 01:20:58
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GirlthePoet :
Do you do one on one meetings?
2026-06-07 12:20:44
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Lakendria Nacole :
Thank you for educating us! This video makes me feel more seen and understood
2026-06-19 18:39:02
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marthadenisealsto :
Teach. preach, over and over again.
2026-05-17 19:51:22
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𝓒𝓸𝓬𝓸 🪞 :
It’s heavy stuff. 🩶
2026-05-17 20:56:08
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Cyndy :
I just love you! Your content is so helpful! Thank you!
2026-05-18 06:15:05
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You dropped this :
thank so much you the only person i ever heard who clearly defined this
2026-05-17 22:50:36
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Hilarye Randall :
Thank you sweetie ❤️❤️❤️
2026-05-21 13:26:36
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KristinaRB 💜🇨🇦🇺🇦 :
Took me far too long to realize this 💜 thank you!
2026-05-26 18:33:31
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kookoo2816 :
“This is the visibility of the control that was there the whole time”
2026-05-17 05:37:48
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Victory :
the isolation from friends and family. I don't understand how he managed this. No one believes me
2026-05-17 11:34:56
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Maggie :
When they say "why didn't she leave" like they haven't spent years teaching us about physical abuse and NOTHING at all about coercive control 🙄 It absolutely steams me
2026-05-17 14:04:21
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pokedmyheart :
thank you so much for your content 🙏❤️please keep speaking out when you can. so many people, including many therapists, are so uniformed about this.,therapists can do a lot of damage minimizing non physical abuse and even gaslighting
2026-05-17 05:08:13
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Noe🔻🇵🇸🇸🇩🇨🇩 :
also look out for their definition of justice. if they believe in retribution and revenge in the face of conflict instead of de-escalation, run!
2026-05-17 16:17:19
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Francesca :
Also many contexts won’t allow physical violence but will tolerate deadly emotional abuse
2026-05-17 07:07:28
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