@thepottymouthguru: A lot of parents genuinely loved their children deeply. This is not: 👉 “you didn’t love your child.” It’s: 👉 “love felt internally is not always the same thing as love experienced relationally.” Children do not directly experience our intentions. They experience: - tone - emotional presence - regulation - repair - responsiveness - emotional safety - consistency - whether their feelings had space - how it felt to be with us That’s how love gets translated nervous-system-to-nervous-system. And this is why impact vs intent matters so much in parenting conversations. Because a parent can: 👉 love deeply 👉 sacrifice deeply 👉 have good intentions AND: 👉 a child can still carry pain, confusion, loneliness, fear, shame, or emotional unsafety from the relational experience itself. Both can coexist. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #unfuckyourself #thepottymouthguru #parenting #childhoodtrauma #attachmentstyles

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thepottymouthguru
The Pottymouth Guru :
Children don’t experience our love directly from inside our hearts. They experience it through how consistently safe, seen, emotionally connected, and emotionally repairable the relationship feels.
2026-05-17 18:37:15
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user97113723921401
user97113723921401 :
Kids need Secure Attachment (via attachment theory). Failing your kids in this way hugely affects their life trajectory.
2026-05-18 13:53:37
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awakeningrude
Rudi ✨🫶🏾 :
bruh parenting is the hardest job ever and I feel like i’m never doing it right
2026-05-18 16:28:11
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psw.patricia
patricia :
I need to work on this
2026-05-18 01:01:54
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crankypantspart.1
crankypantspart.1 :
LOVE IS A VERB
2026-05-18 17:29:40
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sofyschoice
Sofy's Choice :
this reminds me of gabor mate quote: Trauma is not what happens to you, it's what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.
2026-07-07 10:16:15
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peanutbutter_and_jenny
peanutbutterandjenny :
I also want to add. I said I love you to my son while he was half asleep and he said I love you too. then said "say that again" so I said I love you and he said "I know" then he squeezed me and I squeezed him. and I realized... that is so much more important than him saying I love you back. him knowing I love him. now I can take it a step further, and eventually ask, how do you know mom loves you? what does love mean to you? how do you feel loved? and ensure that he knows I love him but also that he FEELS that love.
2026-07-08 19:37:08
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redfive1
RedFive478 :
Absolutely. You’ve put this experience into words so well. I FEEL that my dad loves me, even though he could be emotionally volatile at times. My mom on the other hand, I KNOW she loves me - or I choose to believe so - because it logically makes the most sense. I’ve had to reason myself to that belief as an adult, because she never made her love felt. Thank you for your service
2026-05-18 16:17:48
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sabbii157
Sabbii157 :
"LOVE IS A VERB" awesome statement
2026-05-20 15:10:47
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reikiandbeyond
ReikiAndBeyond :
I feel this applies not only to children. I feel this is very present in adult relationships as well. One may think “I love my partner”, so they must know that I love them, in the meantime the other partner’s experienced is completely different and they are feeling deeply unseen and their needs are not met, and they don’t even know how to bring it up with their partner anymore, because the partner then is perplexed and defensive and don’t understand why this is even happening, because “don’t they know, I love them?!” 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️
2026-05-28 21:26:01
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strawberry_lm75
Carla C :
This hit home! Today I was angry over an altercation in a parking lot, I was with my 13 year old son. My anger at the other driver had my nervous system hyped up even as we were walking into the centre. In turn, this affected him. I was walking too fast, answering questions in a snappy manner. We ended up arguing between us and I was feeling like, why shouldn't I be able to feel angry? But in the end I had to recognise that my disregulation was causing him distress. When I finally stopped defending my anger and apologised for making him feel upset it defused the situation. He often says he doesn't feel loved, when I love him immensely, so that's something I need to watch.
2026-05-23 12:18:37
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lolaspitola
LOLONONO🇨🇦 :
Perfectly articulated👏❤️
2026-07-07 13:51:40
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aren_tennant
💜⭐️ /~\ ®️ € |\| ⭐️💜 :
So many descriptions of certain types of mothers and the relationships with daughters somewhat describe mine...but never fully!! I've never heard anyone describe my mother accurately. I also have a different perspective on these descriptions when it comes to my siblings who dnt see it at all like I do. I feel so confused about it all. 😕
2026-05-29 09:15:42
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sschaerer
♡ :
I dont remember what book it eas from (might be multiple too), but I have an amazing (indirect) quote: "You may be willing to die for me, but would you do anything else?" love is shown in the small things
2026-06-01 08:02:24
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bubbles.1989
Nikki A :
I’ve tried having a conversation with my mom twice in the past because she asked to try and have a better relationship but both times all she did was blame her childhood, my father and siblings or just said I was a tough kid to deal with. No real accountability and she actually had the nerve to say that I showed her how to be a better parent for my sister. She has no relationship with my son or even attempted to get to know my fiancé in almost 5 years. Im ready to just cut ties all together at this point. She may love me but she has NEVER liked me shown any interest in getting to know the REAL me
2026-06-22 23:57:05
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daechan227
DaeBae 🐨 🦘 :
I wish I felt safe growing up. ive never felt love 🥺 no wonder i fall for inconsistent people. as ive only felt that. if im not used, im not useful. its so damaging.
2026-07-10 15:35:51
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helen2361925407007
Helen :
This is besides the point but I love your makeup 💄
2026-05-18 03:48:50
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karenstaley10
Karen Staley :
THIS is what happened!!!! 😳🥰
2026-05-19 21:21:14
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shadenelbehairy
Shaden :
This is insane
2026-05-18 16:06:27
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klaushausnl
Klaushausnl :
Powerful
2026-05-18 00:07:05
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aoife_thropp
🏳️‍⚧️Princess Aoife Thropp :
Yyyyeeeeaaaaa
2026-05-18 07:25:59
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alchemistofemotions
Finding Joy :
Truth
2026-05-18 11:09:33
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peace_in_progress1
Peace In Progress :
This!
2026-06-25 18:17:42
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leothenerd1
LeoTheNerd :
Fucking preach…also, get out of my head…
2026-06-23 00:25:08
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kimberlysantoro3
kimberlysantoro3 :
Impact
2026-05-18 18:14:57
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