@debrachosen: Welcome to episode 5 of The Art of the Interview✨. Today’s technique is one I’ve coined: “Me Before You”. It’s an underestimated technique that many of us already do subconsciously in conversation, especially when navigating vulnerable topics. Me Before You is the practice of meeting someone in the middle instead of asking them to walk the full distance alone. When demonstrated thoughtfully, a conversation becomes an exchange of ideas versus an interrogation. In this clip, we see that happen in real time between @nytimes host David Marchese and @anthonyhopkins. Initially, there is a clear reluctance from Anthony to open up, but that soon changes. This isn’t about agreeing with Anthony’s perspective, but observing how David’s vulnerability shifts the dynamic entirely. Because sometimes the most powerful way to ask a question, is to answer it first. #theartoftheinterview #anthonyhopkins #interviewtips #storytelling #communicationskills

debrachosen
debrachosen
Open In TikTok:
Region: GB
Sunday 17 May 2026 19:01:56 GMT
348422
50559
381
564

Music

Download

Comments

elleololol
Lasẹ (Lash-Eh) :
I watched Zara Larsons call her daddy interview and was astonished at the lack of substance from the host. It’d be super interesting to see your perspective of that interview!
2026-05-18 13:48:16
3707
gabrielledebourg
gabrielledebourg :
This also shows the difference between an interviewer asking a question because they consider it ”good content”, vs one who asks due to genuine interest in the person.
2026-05-19 09:38:05
4080
notatweeter16
NotaTweeter16 :
no-contact isn't about resentment. it's about letting go. it can be the kindest choice u can make—for urself & the other person.
2026-05-17 22:01:29
6117
memyselfandniles
MeMyselfandNiles :
Anthony spoke “not because he was pushed, but because he was met” - beautifully described.
2026-05-18 15:08:53
5526
luna_dee
Lunadee 🇨🇦 :
wow, I really felt the interviewer's pain. no contact can be the best sometimes
2026-05-18 05:11:16
2015
tharadi54
Tharadi :
Oh wow! The host really turned it around so respectfully too.
2026-05-18 07:04:13
3805
gldnbrclt
🗡️ :
Beautiful approach specifically when you're interviewing a senior.
2026-05-18 05:13:53
1470
miguelwatyoka
Miguel Watyoka :
Results may vary
2026-05-19 03:57:31
552
lidiabartlam
lidiabartlam :
totally unrelated to your excellent interview skills analysis but this is what pmo in this interview, he then goes on to elaborate that "if she wants to live in the past that's her choice". We children don't estrange from parents over the past, we do it over the present. These fathers and mothers need to work on themselves and how they perpetuate the toxic behaviour in the now in a way that makes a present relationship impossible or they won't have one - which is the case.
2026-05-20 06:03:47
178
eliasgaltok
Eliasgaltok :
A bit of a feedback: you could add some sort of contrast to your subtitles to ease the reading. Specially if you wear the same color of your subtitles haha. Great analysis and great content✌️
2026-05-18 16:05:18
792
loovelina
Angie :
he was paineddd.
2026-05-18 13:12:31
410
fritzllang
fritz🍉 :
Love this insight! I also really like how he frames the question as an abstract "where reconciliation might lie between parents and children" instead of specifically asking about his personal experience
2026-05-18 11:32:54
718
7u.m4dr3
Mafe🧚🏻‍♀️✨ :
Anthony's answer reinforces that his daughter made the right choice. No daughter/son cuts a parent off after a loving childhood and he doesn't seem to take accountability for his role. I hope his daughter is living peacefully
2026-07-30 16:39:57
22
asandcastle
claire :
I LOVE your breakdowns of interview questioning. Thank you
2026-06-01 04:27:27
30
milamure
milamure :
This works well in general conversation too. A lot of people give surface replies until you talk more openly.
2026-07-08 05:24:05
5
lestatslefttit
Sophya :
I really thought the interviewer was about to piss me off but I’m really glad I was wrong
2026-05-23 02:42:11
21
ben_imaging
Ben Potts :
Interesting! My immediate thoughts here were that the interviewer, by opening up on his story, positioned himself as in the opposite party to the guest though. He is the daughter in Antony’s story, so would that not introduce friction?
2026-05-21 08:53:53
0
carolinacj1998
Carolina :
And after opening up about his experience the interviewer didn’t ask him a personal question, he asked him a general question about how he felt about the process of reconciliation 👏
2026-06-27 15:23:40
9
theremotechic
Joy💻 :
Ohh his good!! He got him talking!!!
2026-06-26 19:52:26
10
voxalos
Forest 🍉 :
This also speaks volumes about the level of research and diligence by Marchese. There's a purpose to asking every question and knowing WHY you want to ask something allows you to navigate a difficult situation in a graceful way
2026-05-26 17:56:00
17
hannahjamiesonz
hannah :
So interesting! To “meet” the interviewee It feels like the rare permissible case where an interviewer should talk about themselves, would love to know more about when this happens and when it is done wrong!
2026-05-17 20:41:20
588
thewomaninblu
Riley Wolfe :
I love that he asked to understand but the topic is still broad and vague enough for him to choose what he wants to reveal and what he doesn't. it's understanding the man not the details of his past
2026-06-28 02:17:23
23
tatstusevu
Tatstusevu :
This is a fab take
2026-05-17 19:18:42
234
cine_boi
NKIRUKA :
The best way to ask a question is to answer it.
2026-05-18 10:43:18
44
yobras22
yobras22 :
This is my second time seeing you dissect an interview, and the lessons drawn from it. Can’t leave you without a follow. Fantastic.
2026-05-18 14:33:41
42
To see more videos from user @debrachosen, please go to the Tikwm homepage.

Other Videos


About