@debbunnies: There is no amount of reassurance or validation that someone else can give you that will make you feel better, unless you decide to learn how to regulate and reassure YOURSELF #anxiousattachment
I told my therapist that i feel like no one has ever truly loved me. She said “ People have loved me to the best of their ability and that’s okay it’s just not how I’ve needed to be loved” for me that meant a lot.
2026-05-18 06:42:24
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Ross :
Am I supposed to read their minds or something no one ever openly cares for me I’m like everyone’s personal therapist.
2026-06-26 14:25:49
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faith :
Okay but how do I reassure myself? How do I make it so I don’t have to put that burden on him? I want to make us last and that means I need to figure out how to deal with my emotions on my own, because he is not responsible for fixing all my problems, but I don’t know HOW to do that. Pls advice
2026-05-18 18:35:58
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harper_tessa :
My therapist told me I don’t have an anxious attachment and even the most secure attachment would feel anxious in my relationship. She was right, I left after 6 years and found my current partner of 3 years who I feel 0 anxiety at all with.
2026-05-18 23:07:47
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Erica Loyd :
My bestfriend is anxious, she asks me all the time if I am mad ( I am not ever mad nor do I do anything to prompt this ) I always reassure her and tell her I love her. Its really that simple and it takes not effort to make sure shes ok. You're never to much for the right people who love you and understand you.
2026-05-20 16:08:01
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ry | personal growth mindset :
Omg just realizing the mess up in the last sentence, it’s supposed to say “there is someone with anxious attachment who needs to hear this”
2026-05-19 01:42:16
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xristina_spatharis :
This is why it’s so important to heal your perception of yourself 🥺🥺
2026-05-18 09:36:12
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babyyydahlia :
i feel like that's true to an extent. but when you feel valued and loved and appreciated, our nervous systems wouldn't be anxious. they'd be calm.
2026-05-19 02:42:24
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Nessa :
Damn. I’ll sit in silence for awhile
2026-05-19 00:31:15
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jasmine :
Wait I think this just opened a door for me
2026-05-18 03:08:43
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shortforelizardbeth :
The problem is we hear it, but we can’t believe it still
2026-05-20 04:34:26
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elisenavidad :
okay ouch now fix me
2026-05-19 19:11:41
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Archimedes :
Damn not even gonna hold our hand with that one??
2026-05-20 15:26:05
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Bekahhh :
hey so that hurt my feelings
2026-05-19 18:56:40
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O :
This healed yet slapped me 😂😭 I gotta get tf asap to a secure attachment
2026-05-19 03:57:36
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jessl166 :
If you're a realist ands logical it's because no amount of words can be enough assurance. There is no such thing as permanence. But we still crave it. It's an impossibility. We're setting ourselves up to suffer.
2026-05-19 16:17:57
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elisenavidad :
Ive had a really hard time with this and I saw a video once that said "youre a people pleaser" and the person said "look around do you see any pleased people" AND DAMN that got me. so im trying to do more for ME because of that
2026-05-19 19:13:05
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Des :
are we sureee the other party is not the problem?
2026-05-20 13:57:59
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k 🌺 :
ouch
2026-05-18 02:40:26
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Zoey_Redbird215 :
yeah i didn't need to hear this 💀 just made me feel worse
2026-05-19 16:45:25
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BELLA :
this is life altering WOW thank you
2026-05-19 01:29:18
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proudauntyyy :
Damn so it’s my fault 😩
2026-05-18 21:58:32
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mimi :
im so deep in it that that makes me it feel like a loop? if im impossible to reassure then im impossible to be with??
2026-05-22 00:02:01
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Katy Reid :
My therapist told me no amount of predictability would fix me. So…
2026-06-07 06:37:37
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