Opallauryn
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heavenepiphanyvaree :
I couldn’t stay I’d just think about it every time I’d look at him
2026-05-19 21:26:18
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B :
It’s called betrayal trauma. It’s the worst pain.
2026-07-03 12:05:26
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Sue H :
Proud of you. I have an 85-year-old Aunt whose husband cheated on her 50 years ago and they stayed together and when my husband cheated and I talked to her about it she said after 50 years she still wonders what he’s doing when she’s not with him. I knew I could never live like that. I knew I deserved better. I walked away immediately from my 20 year marriage and I have not looked back. Surprisingly my life has turned out wonderful wonderfully.
2026-05-20 10:44:54
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omni_comedy :
That’s a nope for me. If you step out you can keep walking!
2026-05-19 16:37:27
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Its_Beets :
You are describing exactly how our mind/body responds to trauma and switches to survival fight or flight mode…you needed the exactly amount of time that you gave yourself to feel ready to leave 🙌🏼🥹
2026-05-20 01:00:41
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Emily | Eating and Roaming :
I’m so sorry you went through this. My ex (husband) cheated and the first time I forgave him (sort of) because we had young children and I couldn’t comprehend the idea of breaking up our family. He also convinced me that I drove him to it by working a lot (I was the only breadwinner for most of the marriage). However, I never really felt at peace again even when things were okay on the surface and did start checking out mentally. Eventually he did it again (really didn’t even try to hide it) and I was actually glad because then I really felt I had a justifiable out. It took me a couple years from the first incident to get there, though.
2026-05-19 15:35:36
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Daphne Martz :
Why would you tho? People don't change.
2026-06-25 01:36:48
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atomicmkr :
Staying way too long is how I learned every "romantic" lesson on my own boundaries. Glad you're out.
2026-05-19 14:48:40
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singingsara :
I'm sorry what? He chose something else, he gots to go
2026-05-19 23:48:02
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emily :
oh..it’s almost like you took a page from my journal. i just wish he could have been honest and upfront about how he fucked up. it’s been a couple years (i’ve stayed) but it still haunts me.
2026-06-11 23:38:39
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The Soulmates Post Mail Club :
It took me 11 years. Proud of you. ♥️
2026-05-19 14:24:36
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nikkigarciaaa :
Very similar experience ❤️🩹 except he was doing all the right things and hard work but my nervous system just couldn’t do it. If it’s meant to be maybe one day where we are both healed but leaving feels like the only option to keep myself mentally healthy
2026-05-20 01:45:04
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YadiratheNP :
Similar experience after 15 yrs of marriage and 3 kids. It breaks my heart for my kids but he didnt think about them. Weve been separated for 6 months now and i am starting to feel some sense of new normal.
2026-07-08 04:36:31
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unidentifiedflyingdog :
Congrats on getting out omg
2026-05-19 17:22:12
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Scout 🐞 :
Ive been wondering if you would've stayed if there was no infidelity or mishandling finances? Like if it was just the mental load stuff, would you have wanted to stay through that? So sorry if you've already answered this!!! I'm just curious because I feel like it could go either way and I value your view on mental load in relationships
2026-05-21 18:49:03
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sarahsevers :
I’m going through this right now. The other woman (who didn’t know but found me) told me on May 1st. I’ve been in emotional turmoil hell
2026-05-20 14:01:42
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📚⚒️🌱 :
exactly the same 😩
2026-05-19 17:47:48
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Nicolette Wood :
It’s SO hard when the cheating was over the internet and never going into physical in-person cheating. 🫠
2026-05-24 00:13:16
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smol-frog 🇨🇦🏳️🌈 :
It is difficult to believe that someone can say they love you and then treat you the opposite. It takes time to register the betrayal. Glad you saved yourself decades of heartbreak.
2026-05-20 16:36:31
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Annie :
Because you have self respect and boundaries. That's why. 💜
2026-05-19 15:57:41
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t2stk :
Went through something similar 3 yrs ago. I’m still here and there are parts that I’m over and then there’s parts that feel like happened yesterday. There was no repair from him besides words with no action. Feels like all the emotional labor of overcoming the betrayal fell on me 😐
2026-07-09 15:17:21
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kristinajhunter :
Trickle truth magnifies the paranoia and distrust exponentially. 😭
2026-05-19 23:25:57
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THE_Joey_Show :
I’m literally incapable of deception and I mean that from 34 years of experience with myself. If someone is capable and willing to deceive me even once - I will never trust them again.
2026-05-19 16:26:29
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✨🦇C🦇✨ :
Because “fuck that” that’s why
2026-05-19 13:58:08
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kiskatas :
Yyyep, I quite literally had to fucking pull information out of him. It took me 4 months of therapy and hearing other people’s similar stories of betrayal, learning about abuse dynamics and coercive control for my mind to finally catch up to my gut reaction to when I found out about his infidelity. That gut reaction was fuck this I’m done. But you’re so right it takes time to unpack that the reality you thought you were in is not real. And the person you had love for and this huge attachment to, just didn’t reciprocate and not only that they didn’t even have basic respect for me as a person! I would never ever judge anyone for leaving or for staying because I know how much work emotionally it takes to leave and also how long it took me to get clarity with so much confusion, deflection, and lies!
2026-05-19 22:26:55
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