@girlthepoet: #creatorsearchinsights Avoidant attachment style people often do not fully process the loss of a relationship during no contact until reality forces them to. Many avoidants suppress emotions, distract themselves with dating, or emotionally deactivate after a breakup, but certain experiences can trigger delayed grief and make you become the phantom ex. In this video, we’re talking about 3 common triggers that make an avoidant attachment style person finally feel the breakup: 1. Their rebound relationship or dating experiences fail 2. They experience a major emotional loss or life stressor 3. They find out you moved on and are happy without them If you are healing from an avoidant attachment breakup, struggling with no contact, or trying to understand avoidant attachment behavior after a breakup, this video will help explain the psychology behind why avoidants often process heartbreak differently. #avoidantattachment #avoidantattachmentstyle #attachmentstyles #phantomex
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Wednesday 20 May 2026 10:42:19 GMT
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Paula Marie 🇨🇦 :
I am the phantom ex. He continued to reach out for 30 years. Before his wedding to another person, throughout their marriage and after their divorce.
2026-05-20 15:25:52
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Bran :
what happens when they start dating someone new after 2 weeks but you can see they are putting in the effort with the new person even when they have conflict with the new person
2026-05-20 11:17:20
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♥︎ ✨️ Elle • Vee ✨️ ♥︎ :
1) When they try dating other people and realize what you brought was much more than others bring to the relationship
2) When something happens in their lives and realize they need their support system (you)
3) When you're with someone else
2026-05-20 12:18:04
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hurrrrdurrrr :
I might be the phantom ex but it doesn’t matter. I’ve detached and moved on
2026-05-22 04:29:29
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esteban_g_96 :
What if I was the rebound, of the rebound of the original phantom ex, and now we’re all phantom exes? Who knows if he’s already dating a new rebound (it’s only been 3 weeks since we broke up).
2026-05-27 22:05:13
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. :
the last thing he told me was “don’t reply to this or i swear to god i’ll block u”. 6 month later, he met up with me to apologize, cried, missed me. yet, he’s with someone new. i asked why they didn’t make it official he said “i have my reasons, im still unsure”. part of me feels like he came to apologize to get it off his chest and then go make it official but he said that’s not why. help
2026-05-24 04:37:05
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Jpanda.eth🌈 :
she has lost everyone and I was there for her in the hardest moments so that won't happen 💔
2026-05-20 16:45:59
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Bamabelle001 :
What if they were with someone else during their time with you and they are still with them, and also breadcrumbing you frequently? We were together for a year and I found out he was dating her for the last 5 months of us.
2026-05-21 18:17:31
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Nen 🐻❄️🫀🦇 :
I needed this series omg it’s been a year and he’s just now spiraling on social media it’s so bizarre bc I’m over it so to see it it’s making me question if it’s about me but it doesn’t make sense for it to be about anyone else based on the stuff being retweeted
2026-05-21 03:50:54
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Ckyser :
Spot-on. All three of these things happened within three months after the breakup and she just circled back. That was all the closure that I needed. 🙏🏼
2026-05-20 23:11:51
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Jake Broadhead :
I miss him so much, we ended things the first time cos I didn’t think he was ready and he said he couldn’t give me the attention i deserve then weeks later reached out flirting and then weeks later ended it saying our dynamic is unrealistic and made it clear that it’s over and I said we can’t be friends cos I like him too much so now I’m blocked again but I rlly can’t move on I do like him still is it truly over ? 😭
2026-05-20 13:56:43
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Sana :
Thiss 💯💯
2026-05-21 10:12:00
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GossipGirl :
Lets hope
2026-05-20 10:52:37
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Alxn_xzz¹⁷ :
The way The Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss explains influence and attraction is actually kind of unsettling… but in a fascinating way.
2026-05-20 20:38:21
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joaa_se ☀️ :
Most people have no idea a book like The Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss even exists. The way it breaks down manipulation, desire and influence is honestly insane.
2026-05-20 20:42:03
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sanzu.lov<~ :
If you’re interested in psychology and influence, you should look into The Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss. Some of the concepts in there are honestly mind blowing.
2026-05-20 20:39:59
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china 🪼 :
I stumbled across The Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss and I’ll never look at manipulation, desire and influence the same again.
2026-05-20 20:39:45
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OverTheBorderline :
They rarely come back.
2026-05-20 12:46:13
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Charlie :
Mine blocked me out of nowhere after two months of no contact. He still has my stuff and I’m not sure how to get them anymore :/ any advice?
2026-05-21 10:19:04
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dd425997 :
what about when they go to the military?? is that a qualifying event that will make them realize?
2026-05-22 01:41:43
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Mundo de terror :
Been using techniques from The Pullback Effect by Marcus Veyne for a month now. My ex who said she was done is now asking to meet up. This shit is dangerous bro.
2026-05-20 13:33:12
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hux1234567 :
😳😳😳
2026-05-21 00:48:56
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Philppee :
@dr_d_omon_spell_caster01 thank you for bringing him back
2026-05-21 15:46:07
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