Yes I’m a therapist and I recommend. F/t first then have a quick (30-45min) meet and greet. Check for attraction & compatibility before giving this person your TIME. This is your most precious resource
2026-05-20 14:50:21
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Armando Silva :
Peak Emotional Intelligence.
2026-05-20 22:37:38
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Lightly :
What you describe is exactly what my wife and I stumbled into. We had a mutual interest, we agreed on a platonic outing, we met for dinner as friends to plan the outing, each paid, went on the event, and both discovered we liked each other by spending time together outside the performance of dating.
2026-05-20 16:35:22
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Rogan Talks :
Low effort is “I don’t feel a spark”. High effort is “This is too much too quick”. So like…
2026-05-21 17:05:46
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Archangel223 :
Connect first, date later. it's really that simple.
2026-05-20 19:19:33
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𝕾𝖆𝖗𝖆 :
idk, I think I can still get to know someone when they're opening doors or giving me flowers
2026-05-20 18:45:08
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Sav🍓🤍 :
This. First dates will never not be awkward and it’s a far better use of ur time to put yourselves in a situation where the environment doesn’t affect your connection.
2026-05-20 14:49:59
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a_kraz :
Yes!! 1000%. I think the perfect first date is coffee or something low-key. Then if we vibe and you want to pursue, 2nd date they can plan, pay, buy flowers etc. I have standards for the 2nd date and beyond. But for the 1st date? No
2026-05-22 03:22:49
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killianpbtattoos :
Love this take
2026-05-20 15:31:13
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Yessified :
my first date did neither 😭
2026-05-21 01:45:49
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leanne 🌞 :
off topic but you’re STUNNING as a redhead i’m going to cope your makeup bc you ATE
2026-05-25 02:45:44
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emmyjeanbatdorf :
My husband and I talked over the phone and texted for a few days before he asked me out on a date and talked for two weeks in total before the date. We got root beer floats at a local place and went on a walk at a park and ended up talking for hours. It was the best first date ever.
2026-05-22 01:10:43
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user529688558 :
Oh my god this is literally it!!!!
2026-05-20 19:22:04
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Day of Fate :
My first date ever....at 22....was going to an abandoned "haunted" house, then getting lunch and talking until it closed, then going to get dinner at a 24 hour diner and talking until morning. For me I need to build a connection before anything.
2026-05-23 09:55:29
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sexy_truther :
I feel like the best example of this is pet names early on. Like babe, baby, etc. during the first times you meet them 😭😭😭😭
2026-05-21 03:14:55
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Mags 🌷🍃🫧 :
This!!! This is exactly what happened on the last date I was on and I struggled sooo much to describe how I felt to my friends
2026-05-20 17:14:05
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dohdeaux :
damn, this real af miss
2026-05-20 21:31:22
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Kelvin :
No shit?
2026-05-21 17:22:50
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theBassPanda :
my rule is to always be friends before dating. I probably wouldnt survive this dating scene 😂
2026-05-21 12:45:37
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onlyrags :
i get the sense you're feeling very misunderstood by the people you're seeing and it feels like you're rejecting the notion of romance because it scares you to be on the receiving end? romance doesn't compensate for chemistry, it reveals it. having that experience actually can show you pretty quickly if you actually like them or not. and the role part - that never goes away no matter what.
the being loved for who you are comes waaaay later and over multiple dates because it takes quite some time to know a person.
2026-05-21 20:36:52
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Sara ✨💖 :
This is genuinely how I feel too. Romantic gestures are nice, and I know they matter to some people, but what feels truly romantic to me is simply spending time together. I’m happiest doing ordinary things like grocery shopping, going for a walk, or just sitting together if it means I get time with my person. There’s something deeply comforting and romantic about being with someone who truly sees and understands you without either of you having to perform. Without that connection, romance feels dead to me
2026-05-21 12:27:08
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kate ⋆.𐙚 ̊ :
Ugh this is so true and why dating can be soooo exhausting sometimes😭🫠
2026-05-20 15:49:37
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Awesome Pose :
😯 Oh yes !! That sweet moment when the conversation just goes and it's interesting and no one has to make an effort !! 🤔 First date being platonic, not romantic is genius !! I never thought about it that way but it is so obvious !! I'm not gonna love somebody after 6 minutes, but I could enjoy their company from the first second !! I'm gonna try that next time !! 🤗 Stay amazing, Grace !! Love your earrings, btw !! 🤗
2026-05-20 14:59:20
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Raw Honesty :
No way, they need to invest right from the beginning so that IN CASE I DECIDE that I want him it feels right 😁
2026-05-21 21:39:59
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