Isobel | PoliSci PhD student🌟
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Drafty 🇨🇦 :
I’d liken it to an inter-racial couple. As much as society likes to pretend it is more accepting of the different. Fear of being made to feel uncomfortable in your day to day life, could be a factor.
2026-05-21 02:12:04
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AB 🔻🇵🇸 :
I think it’s more to do with socialisation than anything else. We are conditioned from birth to strive for a certain trajectory that is completely centred around men. And that image is hard to erase from your mind especially when you don’t understand like logistically how a wlw relationship looks long term. A shitty relationship with a man is still predictable whereas a relationship with a woman is an unknown. Fear of the unknown is a very powerful weapon.
2026-05-20 21:44:04
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🌵Croydon Cowgirl 🍒 :
Some people just have preferences 🤷🏻♀️
2026-05-20 22:03:24
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Tox ™ :
as someone who used to say something along the same lines when I was like 18 cos i thought I was Bi (I'm pan lmfao) i used to say that because I was too afraid to tell the truth but I'm unsure if that applies to everyone who says it
2026-05-21 05:59:38
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Omar :
Being bisexual doesn’t mean you have to want to marry both men and women. If someone says they’d never marry a woman, that’s their personal preference, not homophobia. People can be attracted to more than one gender and still have a clear preference for who they want a long-term relationship with.
2026-05-30 11:00:36
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Abbey Heffer :
There are also very real structural issues at play. Like having to pay for IVF if you want a family. Straight couples get three IVF attempts for free (sometimes more). If you're not rich, that puts limits on your relationship that should not be there.
2026-05-21 18:46:11
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girl mom 🎀 :
Bc she has a preference!
2026-05-24 13:59:20
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Abbass :
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2026-05-23 13:13:20
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Eleanor 🌙 :
A lifelong conditioning to be in a heterosexual marriage is hard to shake i think
2026-05-20 21:43:38
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izzi 🌸 :
is it all that different from comphet? its weird to me that theres eternal discourse about this for bi femmes when many lesbians say similar things for years because of comphet. we are all in the same boat as each other ?
2026-05-20 21:47:44
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mary grace :
it’s a lot of comp-het too. if we can easily see and believe lesbians who were with men and didn’t realize they were lesbians until later in life, why is it so hard for us the extend that same understanding towards bi women?
2026-05-21 05:02:54
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nathanielburke :
Nah I think it’s more to do with societal bigotry than bigotry held by the person themself. As a mixed-race person I can absolutely understand a black woman choosing a black guy over a white one as a result of the racism they’d face (or feel they’d face) for choosing a white one. In the same way I can understand why homophobia would prompt a bisexual person to favor dating a member of the opposite gender over one of the same.
2026-05-24 14:59:01
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lizzie ᗢ◊ :
Bi woman here. I think many are reacting to this because they've not been with a woman yet and they're misinterpreting this discourse as an attack on them. And to those women I want to say it's not about preferences. It's not about whether you have ever been with a woman before (because you may be in a long-term relationship with a man, you may not have had the opportunity, you're not out yet etc etc). It's about whether you actually SEE yourself being with and marrying a woman if the circumstances were right. If you can't then ask yourself why. It's likely you have internalised biphobia/ homophobia, misogyny and comphet to unpack.
2026-05-24 18:00:50
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Rachel :
I do have some bi friends who didn’t realize they were bi until after already being married to men. And they do really struggle to take ownership of that identity because they are in happy marriages but also are genuinely romantically and sexually attracted to women. Which I know is very different from being like “I could never see myself with a woman because of misogyny/homophobia” but it is kind of idk some nuance for the conversation.
2026-05-22 09:15:46
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ShotOfDepresso :
it's because they are bisexual and not bi-romantic. this is why dl men don't want relationships w men. there's a great book called " Ace: what asexuality reveals about desire, society and the meaning of sex". the book really broadened my understanding of sexuality.
2026-05-25 16:40:42
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Gretchen Wetzel :
I feel like I could have truly had a life without men entirely had I known the right woman but I get it. Sexuality is a spectrum and having a long term relationship with a man or woman if your bisexual is different than having a fling. You know sometimes it’s just a matter of preference…
2026-05-21 09:48:36
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Ranijalo :
you're generalizing all bisexual women when it was ONE WOMAN WHO WAS CALLED OUT BY EVERY BISEXUAL BECAUSE SHE'S NOT BISEXUAL!!
2026-05-21 14:54:20
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