helena_earls
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Courtney Erin :
I just realized recently almost every move I make in social situations is based on how that other person will react or what they will think. It’s insane how much it controls your life.
2026-05-24 16:35:37
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Bri_DVM :
And then I obsess over if I did anything wrong, convince myself people don’t like me, and work myself up until I’m physically sick.
2026-07-13 11:11:17
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Shy-sunset :
Thanks for making me realize what i deal with is fawning
2026-05-24 17:10:52
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Aurashakes :
Every conversation is fight-or-flight.
2026-05-25 04:21:03
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Florence ✨ :
I saw the movie Remarkably bright creatures and someone says “You’re so busy trying not to be a burden to everyone, that you’ve forgotten how to be a friend.” And i felt that deeply.
2026-05-26 22:37:10
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🎧ྀི :
And then people say ‘why didn’t you just speak up or say something’ 🥺 it’s not always so simple
2026-05-25 15:50:29
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Pisskitty :
And mind you, the checklist is as tall as you are and you have to go through the whole thing in your head in under 5 seconds because if you take too long to respond you have to do damage control for hours
2026-05-25 15:56:39
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Queen.Toebeans :
Did you stop talking to them? That finally helped me break through. I stopped being present in environments that demand fawning!
2026-05-26 02:23:28
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Sana :
Mr with every friendship because I had this issue with friendships
2026-05-24 14:16:13
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Stevy :
My life. It is sickening and debilitating.
2026-05-24 17:05:07
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Evelily🌱 :
Thisss!!!! I have the saaaame thing and talking to people is sooooo tiring. I have been unable to form any relationships even friendships for years. I’m always hyper focused on how I come across to the point I make every conversation awkward and to the point I just want them to end which makes me unable to form any genuine connections.
2026-05-28 08:29:46
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pearlofascension :
Hey so I’m triggered 🥰
2026-07-28 14:13:38
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schockvalue :
I’ve never heard anyone explain it more clearly. Yes!
2026-05-24 16:34:02
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Penelope🩰🎨 :
You describing it perfectly. It's EXHAUSTING.
2026-05-25 17:41:16
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theperfumelady.sa :
I accidentally spoke freely and my mom hasn't spoken to me since. It's been 3 months
2026-05-27 20:49:10
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b271995 :
Your videos change my life. You articulate how I’ve felt my entire life with total precision. God. I’m sorry you went through this too, but you make me feel soooo seen. ❤️
2026-05-24 20:13:45
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_sunflwr_babe :
I relate to this so much
2026-05-24 18:18:56
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themysticwound :
I loathed how hypervigilant I had to be as a kid, and somehow was always constantly scanning for the exit. The space where I finally didn't have to do that anymore. It would be letting go of the person they weren't capable of being, and allowing those that did resonate with me to find me. It's a process, and it's worth it.💓
2026-05-24 16:54:02
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Alana Kyle :
My parents too. They were so challenging.
2026-05-24 14:34:19
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Méabh :
Every comment, every look, everything is a test. They know what they want to hear and if you don't say it and in the way they want it to then chaos ensues. You are just there to validate them. Constantly. Also even just resting was tricky. Neutral expressions were seen as you being upset which questioned their worth as parents. It was exhausting. You constantly have to prove to them you are perfectly happy and they are perfectly well and everything is perfect. All while ignoring your own feelings whatever they may be. You don't even know you don't have the luxury of considering it. I don't think people have any idea how exhausting it is. Your very state of being is altered at all moments.
2026-07-20 12:31:50
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Mili96 :
Yep I’m a chameleon
2026-06-09 02:40:57
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Zilly :
And if you answer incorrectly you get the guilt trip and silent treatment
2026-07-21 20:31:14
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🫀 :
my entire personality is to adapt and please the person in front of me.. im nobody when im alone
2026-07-03 00:39:23
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Jlove23 :
You speak to my soul. Where/how did you learn all this?
2026-07-05 16:40:14
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Margaret :
I’ve never related to something so much! I have some ocd tendencies and I feel they relate to fawning
2026-07-09 01:02:27
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