@streetlighteyesdontdie: Can anyone explain this to me?

dumbpeanut0 :

You’re right obviously but it’s still perfectly okay to turn someone down because of their past lol.

enc3pence :

Coz bonding with friends is diffrent than bonding with someone who’s gonna be a parent of your child.

raven :

they gon love this one

Jabobo :

well actually that is how it works... quite literally... and can be applied to literally any stimuli

aaronwltz :

Some people try to explain their discomfort and insecurity towards the subject using ‘data’. Personally, I just own it: I’m insecure and I have trouble convincing myself I’ll be anything more than an addendum to someone’s list. It makes dating pretty hard (impossible actually) but I understand my feelings and attitudes enough to know what I can handle.

Speckoger :

Are you saying past behavioral patterns are not a predictor of future behavioral patterns? That's a steep claim

Thoemoes05 :

how about we apply this logic to duration. If a person on average has a friend for 2 months and then looks for other friendships. You would be more careful about bonding to people like that because they havent experienced long time friendship or doesnt have it as a core value

douniarighi🔻 :

I knew from the beginning that you weren't actually talking about friendships 🙂‍↕️pls let me have this. I need to have this.

Hatem :

it's psychological and it goes for both men and women

Mirianer :

well no, I'd assume that the person with less friends would form deeper bonds with them, as opposed to someone with a lot of them🫩

Drica :

user :

if u hug people a lot/make a lot of friends, then the value that making a new friend/hugging a new person goes down compared to someone who has not made a lot of friends and hugged a lot of people duh

A :

falling in love and staying in love (after the honeymoon period) are two different things, people nowadays associate the former with all those hormones due to availability & repetition. The exception would be people that have already experienced what having & losing a deep bond actually feels like. At that point they'll be chasing that dragon till they find it again, which, in this case, is actually possible.

MachodManRandySavage21 :

There it is, I was waiting for you to get to the false equivalency. None of them examples you gave come anywhere close to the intimate and vulnerable action of sex. Try again

watatsuk1 :

Me the rest of the video after completely believing and agreeing with the first point🧍

HoraLaure :

Love multiplies. Including self-love. A person who loves themselves will no longer tolerate bullshit.

Dugong :

It’s almost ALMOST like correlation is not causation. Now where have I heard that before? 🤔

Embamalam 🇦🇺 :

I was gonna scroll until I heard 'thats insane to believe stay with we me here'

theotherhappyplace :

god I like you

𒉭☦︎𝔭𝔯𝔦𝔪𝔬✟𖦏 :

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zzettaii :

Personally I believe that ppl who sleep with a lot of ppl tend to lack self respect, and so allow a person who hasnt made a deep connection with "said person", the privilege to their bodies. I'd js like a partner values themselves but that js me ig

alylou :

I don’t know why I can’t wrap my head around what you’re saying. Is your point that high count doesn’t matter?

willowdere :

I don't necessarily think that it's biologically impossible, but I think this is a false equivalency because, in romantic relationships, you're typically exclusive whereas there's not really a limit to how many friends you can have. so if someone had a lot of friends, they might've been in long term friendships, but if someone monogamous had many romantic relationships, they likely moved from relationship to relationship quickly and, unless that was years back and they've changed as a person, it's fair to assume that a relationship with them is unlikely to be long term if that makes sense

Gabi :

W

cakefromstatefarm :

My parents used to make me hug people 😒