@scott.austin.martin: A woman can love you deeply and still not feel safe with you. That is not an accusation. It is nervous system reality. Safety is not built from intentions. It is built from repeated experiences. Can she bring you hard emotions without you collapsing, exploding, shutting down, or turning everything back on her? Safety is not something you explain someone into feeling. It is something their body experiences consistently enough to finally unclench. My book SAFE goes into exactly this. Link in bio. #nervoussystem #relationships #relationshiptips #menscoach #emotionalsafety
Yep. Don’t feel emotionally safe at all unfortunately :(
2026-05-26 02:51:54
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Complex :
i don't love him, i love the idea of him.
2026-05-27 13:13:28
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zanny_baybee :
BOOM! You nailed it
2026-06-10 22:00:53
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Tracy K :
His fyp not mine 😭
2026-05-26 06:08:12
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heathereve35 :
Yes - I kept telling my ex I didn’t feel safe around him anymore and tried to explain this !! He refused to try to understand. Just said “I’m not dangerous” ….
2026-05-26 01:55:48
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Shamwow23 :
....if only i could send this to my husband.... my cortisol levels are THROUGH THE ROOF. Im here taking all these tests with my naturopath and doing everything I can on my end, yet my biggest issue feels so out of control... just the thought of bringing this up to him stresses me🥲
2026-05-26 22:22:34
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Holly Ryan | Yoga :
It’s not always a toxic relationship though and that’s the problem. Sometimes it looks like happiness and that can be confusing for her 🫶🏼
2026-05-26 10:30:57
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whimsywendat :
Sir you are allowed a podcast
2026-05-26 03:01:27
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Sharon Land :
This is gold. Thank you
2026-05-25 23:32:52
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jenn_nicole :
wow. you literally just explained everything ive been trying to tell my husband.
2026-05-26 16:59:33
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1sourceenergy :
I don't feel emotionally safe with him 😭💔
2026-05-28 10:49:23
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user2571587012633 :
Yep. My body can’t relax, even if things are good a lot of the time. The 20% of unpredictability and anger have made me incapable of opening up.
2026-05-27 18:27:42
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leena20211 :
Exactly.. nervous system & emotional safety. TY for this post.
2026-05-26 01:49:37
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EyeGlassInspector :
My nervous system has been fried to a crisp.
2026-05-27 20:19:12
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Vida :
I absolutely love this explanation!!! Spot on 🙌🙌🙌
2026-06-10 14:55:19
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Darian Fernandez :
Don't forget ppl, this applies to children and parents as well!
2026-06-01 20:52:59
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Monique E. :
Psychological safety is rare
2026-06-05 21:07:29
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Snow Flake :
Please put this book on Libby 🥰
2026-06-07 19:14:08
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Sam :
so I'm really not overthinking my feelings because... wowzer.
2026-05-30 02:56:57
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finessecleaningservicesja :
One year into my relationship my partner asked me if I felt safe with him I told him NO but i love him he said he is going to change that four years later I am happier than a baby just living my best life because I know that man got my back
2026-05-27 11:06:03
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Chelsea 🖤 :
His fyp not mine 😞
2026-05-27 10:32:14
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kel💕💕 :
Once I felt unsafe , resentment just built and built and it ended four months ago and for the first time in six years I’m not second guessing myself or feeling guilty. I felt unheard for so long .
2026-05-28 21:01:36
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MINEZ :
I left this. Once I could breathe safely… so many symptoms left. No more headaches, stomach issues…. I was living on edge 24/7 with the unpredictably.
2026-05-27 03:10:31
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Express :
“Can you stay present when tension enters the room”
2026-05-27 09:36:57
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