The Pottymouth Guru
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ÒwÓ :
I understand what you are saying. But it also triggers this feeling of like... resentment. It always feels like the work falls on me, while my partner thrashes about, causes harm, refuses repair, and somehow the solution is that I need to be more understanding of their pain/capacity/limitations while managing my own. It feels very one sided. I'm not meaning to disagree with you or anything, but I would love to know your thoughts on this or if you've already talked about it (I'm new here). Appreciate your content 🥰
2026-05-30 02:27:52
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The Pottymouth Guru :
A lot of anxious partners are not trying to “win” the conversation. They’re trying to stop the terrifying nervous system feeling of emotional disconnection before it turns into abandonment panic.
2026-05-25 23:19:39
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Aussie Sassa 🇦🇺 🦘🏳️🌈 :
sadly the people who will watch this are not necessarily the people who need* to see it ❤️
2026-05-26 00:13:34
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Carmela Benvenuto :
whoowhee. first I was like oh yeah this is about him all the way. then as you kept going I was like ....ew , that's absolutely me actually. 😭😬😬😅
2026-05-26 21:25:54
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Jesse :
If the relationship is worth fixing the go to therapy together. If you’ve been in this cycle for more than a year and nothing changes and the defensive avoidant wants to just push things under the rug and never resolve them—leave. There is no amount of changing your own behavior that will make someone else change theirs if they’re not ready. Tough facts but facts none the less. I was foolish and did it for 8 years. I wasted my 20’s. Don’t do that.
2026-05-31 08:15:53
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nope🦭 :
and when you say temporary uncertain/uncomfortableness, I could handle that if the partner actually comes back to the issue without me having to bring it up to get repair.. what to do when the avoidant doesnt come back to it and wants to move on/sweep under the rug behaviour...
2026-05-26 19:53:51
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Shelly :
I still don't know what to do. I've done the calm communication, over accommodating, careful word choices, you name it. what do I say in these moments? because I literally blew up the last argument because none of that was working.
2026-05-26 18:06:05
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Gigget 🇨🇦 :
This was me! In hindsight 🙏 Anxious attached with an avoidant partner. I drank, escalated. I'm sober now, see my side. Working on myself 🙏
2026-05-26 02:52:50
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Catswitz :
Girl I’m happy I found your account you are describing me and my husband
2026-06-18 18:35:55
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Kyra :
What if I’m begging for reassurance and he just can’t do that?
2026-05-29 08:32:21
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chichimama50 :
this is literally the state i am in. 7 years in..financially controlled. i am working first on developing my own source of income for my safety and protection. in the meantime i mostly "grey rock" him. no more apologizing..no more fawning...no more panic attacks or fear
2026-06-14 20:17:37
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Laura Espinosa :
Temporary … ok but months of disconnection??
2026-05-27 23:55:34
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user901701 :
As an anxious person I have come a long way in regulating myself in not being overbearing in this way like I use to, but I find my partner still doesn’t come back to the conversations or the connections to fix conflicts. No matter how much space or time I give him to gather his thoughts and feelings, it never seems to circle back. It feels like he’s just hoping I’ll forget about it. He just completely shuts down, disappears and disconnects.
2026-05-27 00:50:11
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Mishmish :
Nothing worked so I left....
2026-05-26 00:27:29
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Hailey :
God this makes me feel so seen
2026-05-26 03:34:30
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Thin Air :
This sounds like me, but I couldn't see why I'd have an attachment issue. Either way it's very true and I want to work on getting better. Thank you for your content I'm learning more every day!
2026-05-28 22:03:09
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Alexandre :
I don't even start the relationship 😅
2026-05-28 17:38:08
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Lyndsey :
💯 working on it. however it's difficult to maintain when you're dealing with somebody who in the past has just disappeared (blocked, moved on quickly, ect) instead of having an honest conversation. So I'm not reacting to my old wounds I'm reacting to the wounds he gave me.
2026-05-26 16:55:55
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TORGUE :
How do you work on it if you had a history of being played off by people when it comes to expressing your emotions
2026-05-25 23:55:20
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Dragoana :
Thanks for this video, never felt more seen 😳
2026-05-27 11:22:35
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Heather :
Nail on head!
2026-05-26 20:35:15
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yuhj455 :
You are so beautiful 🥰
2026-05-27 12:04:52
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Lesbifriends :
Ok so this is me…100…I’m the one anxiously trying to repair. You literally nailed it and I’m trying to figure out how to heal that wound.
2026-05-27 09:26:05
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user6564909255395 :
This is so spot on for me. Now I get how they are triggering my inner wounds. But all in all being dismissed, blamed, stonewalled and gas lighted is in no way a healthy way to live. It would seem difficult for even a securely attached person. Thank you I finally understand.
2026-06-01 11:40:09
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