@scott.austin.martin: Anything that is not discussed in a relationship will never be addressed. But most couples never actually finish a conversation about a boundary or a need before the other person flips it back. One person raises a need. The other immediately raises theirs. Now nobody's original need gets resolved. That is the fairness defense. And it is one of the main reasons couples stay stuck in the same loop. A connected relationship is not transactional. It is not I will meet your need if you meet mine. It is two people who actually want the best for each other figuring out how both people can be honored. #nervoussystem #relationships #relationshiptips #menscoach #emotionalsafety

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user3650816999469 :

My husband is defensive 100% of the time, he projects, gets angry darvo’s the hell out of me. I feel like I mean nothing to him. As long as I keep my head down, keep his needs matt he’s great and I’m miserable. I really think he hates me.

2026-05-27 16:59:11

Grace & Reinvention with "T" :

You explain relationship dynamics so well!! 👌🏾

2026-05-26 18:02:45

Bonnisbee :

He won’t, he can recognize we have a problem, but it coming from him is a NO WAY.

2026-06-10 05:09:24

Shara :

Yep! 💯

2026-05-27 06:30:16

wennie_lou_who :

I’m tired of trying to discuss it. Tired of being shut down, or dismissed. I don’t care anymore, one of us will die eventually.

2026-05-26 22:39:57

Sunrise :

i hate transactional partnership romantically, platonically, and professionally. It never works because it's never, genuine, constant and reciprocal. Unfortunately, I always meet people who have this selfish mindset.

2026-05-29 02:04:38

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