@johndelony: Sometimes the biggest turn-off in a marriage is feeling like your spouse needs something from you instead of actually wanting you. And those are two totally different energies. When intimacy starts to feel like pressure, obligation, or emotional caretaking, something shifts in the relationship. Nobody wants to feel like a parent in their marriage. That’s one of the reasons we created @togethermarriageapp. Healthy marriages don’t drift toward connection. You build it in small daily moments of honesty, fun, and paying attention to each other again. Real intimacy grows when two people feel safe, seen, chosen, and desired. Delony #marriageadvice #relationshipadvice #emotionalintimacy

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cassidi_n_cassidi
SpitztacularArt :
Yes. It becomes another task to get done. ✔️
2026-05-26 17:09:49
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fluffy_hornet
Cyn_Cooper :
"need" = chore I don't want to do
2026-05-27 02:02:59
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goosed410
Martha H :
It feels like we’re an object that’s there and we could be literally anyone else and it wouldn’t matter
2026-05-26 17:33:43
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poetinarmour
Katie :
Need = about him. Desire = about her.
2026-05-28 00:41:11
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ponderosabreeze
ponderosabreeze :
Yep. Nothing kills joy like obligation.
2026-05-27 03:45:36
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mallorysuzann
Lifewithmallory :
I dreaded going to bed at night because of the expectation and I had no choice. It was basically we are married so I have access to you whenever I want regardless of your feelings. It was another thing on the to do list.
2026-05-27 13:18:56
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memento.mori.dk
Ida_J :
Becomes just another chore
2026-05-26 22:02:59
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jenniwritescode
jenni :
I know my partner wants me. My problem is I’m in perimenopause and have zero libido. So he thinks I don’t want him but I don’t want ANY intimacy. I’m working with my doctor on HRT but it’s not a quick fix. He’s frustrated and so am I.
2026-05-26 21:08:58
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wolfwilder98
WolfWilder98 :
The constant feeling like I was behind on a task and that it was a never ending expectation, like paying bills every month. I hated sex
2026-05-27 17:53:27
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user861182835
Em ✨ :
If I didn’t keep up a high enough frequency I would get a talking to about his needs. 100% turned into a chore that I completed to maintain peace
2026-05-27 03:14:45
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wouldntuliketoknow555
Dayla🧚🏽‍♂️ :
Literally becomes something you no longer want to do
2026-05-27 21:03:39
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goosegoosegoose96
James Hurlbut :
But how do I make her feel that I want her? I tell her all the time that she’s beautiful and I do things for her that show I care. But none of it seems to matter because she never believes me even though I’ve never given her a reason not to. I’m sure there’s more that I can do, but I never thought I’d have to try this hard
2026-05-26 22:56:32
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c_rein35
Carissa Michelle :
And “need” feels more like a “means to an end” not a desire.
2026-05-27 07:31:14
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the_cloudia
The_Cloudia :
How or what is the difference
2026-05-28 18:17:06
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_yungadderall
Yung Addi🤪🐢 :
Very well articulated. I agree completely
2026-05-26 16:58:58
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cave.lady
cave.lady :
The last think I want after a whole day of being needed by my kids, by my job, and not be able to say no or do what I want - is for someone else to not only need my body and not care whether I want to, but also takes it personally if I don’t.
2026-05-28 15:53:56
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hot.deal33
Love Better Podcast :
Thank you 😁🥰
2026-05-31 04:05:27
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lilagedcheddar
Jamie :
yes it becomes another chore for us to do.
2026-05-27 12:07:46
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v5447599
V :
Literally
2026-05-30 14:37:10
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genx_crazylittlething
genx_crazylittlething :
Yep my exhusband compared to my current husband. Not sure my ex ever wanted me, but my current husband desires me …. It’s amazing how undeniably different it is.
2026-05-26 20:15:18
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routy2021
Routy2021 :
Very good point
2026-06-04 03:59:34
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kronikallikima
kronikallikima :
Yes! Becomes just another chore
2026-05-27 21:10:21
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itsmatytime
Mathew Ryan :
so stop saying need and start saying desire you? got it
2026-05-26 22:59:11
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milked.crows
milked.crows :
and it becomes a chore.
2026-05-26 20:50:10
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peeloolaa_
PeeLooLaa :
Another errand to run. Kills the mood forever 😅
2026-05-27 17:10:54
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