@dr.ibbiearo: Replying to @CTarA hope this helps 🫶🏾

Phree Grace :

A person who doesn't want to hurt you will let you go if it means doing the best thing for you. A person who doesn't want to lose you will keep you in bondage no matter how harmful it is to you.

butterflytarot25 :

I left after 17 yrs. His biggest fear was losing me…the whole time I lost myself. I’m finally back to me and growing forward 🦋

officiallytheak :

This is true. People who don’t have abandonment issues focus on doing things to make it worth your while and make you stay. They understand that the leaving part is completely up to you and not them.

♈️💗LaDonna'Antoinette🇯🇲💗 :

one day I said to my boyfriend, "I feel like you're afraid to lose me, He goes I am. when I asked him during shadow work questions, what's your biggest fear, he said losing you, and I kept thinking but why are you afraid of losing me instead of being focused on making me happy? It took being with him for two years with no forward movement to realize that thats why, he has no plans for a future with me.

Kimmie :

I don’t think this is completely accurate. I have abandonment issues. I worry about losing the person I’m with. My biggest fear is abandonment. But I’m honest, i have the hard conversations, i care about my partner, i worry about how my actions make them feel. I try my best to make him feel emotionally safe. So this isn’t accurate to all people with abandonment issues.

Cat :

love this! ty for sharing!!

Carl :

This shifted something for me. Thank you.

Tayee :

Well I don't wanna be kepted no more lol

Clarissa🩷 :

Some people stay together while not in love because they have grown accustomed to the life they built and having that person around that they can't fathom a different life.... its so sad honestly.

disorderlily :

khalicreates :

“Handles your heart with responsibility” is a words by itself 👏

Rissa ✨ :

So true. The person I was talking to was so scared of losing me that my feelings weren’t truly considered in the process. Being kept around but not chosen is exhausting. I had to be the one to leave bc they couldn’t let me go. Very crazy.

zizilee :

“if you love them, let them go” type shi

shannonwalkinginsunshine :

Be kind to yourself if you leave the one where it’s possession. Your feelings are valid and it will hurt. Healing is sticky not linear.

The Pragmatist 🇺🇸 :

“A person who doesn’t want to lose you is often focused on themselves.” 🎯🎯🎯

Dot :

What if you have abandonment issues but you want to keep your person? You change into something that they want to try and keep them happy? Is that a possibility?

The Pragmatist 🇺🇸 :

“Their biggest priority is keeping you because of how you benefit them. That’s it.” 🎯🎯🎯

Sun moon stars ✨ :

The key distinction is clarity. The one who gives your clarity is the one who doesn’t want to hurt you, the good one

Sorry Ari :

it ended up pushing me away so 🤷‍♀️

mvtk13 :

it took me 22 years to truly understand this. And this is spot on

RJ_Pipy :

Mannnnnnn this hits!!!

cookietheeking :

O. M. F. G. The way this is exactly what I needed to hear?!?!?! THANK YOU.