@drewwdaniels: You will have these three fights with any long term partner. #attachmentstyles #relationshiphealing #avoidantattachment #dismissiveavoidant #anxiousattachment

Arky :

1 also needs to be about seeing beyond what the feeling is and what is actually being asked. My recent conflict (he's retreated) with my avoidant had me pointing out the pattern and the impact that was having, and asked how we work together to prevent it from happening in the future, but he seemed stuck in this defensive space, that I was blaming him, that I probably expected him to grovel and what he was going to make it up to me, when all I'm focused on is collaboration, not who hurts more, or failed.