@scott.austin.martin: Most men listen to solve. That sounds helpful until you realize solving is often emotional escape. She says "I feel alone." He hears "I failed." So instead of getting curious he starts defending, explaining, fixing. But she did not hand him a problem. She handed him her inner world. If help is designed to end your discomfort, it will not feel like love to her. It will feel like being managed. Real listening is just: tell me more. I can see why that hurt. I do not need to fix this yet. That is capacity. Link in bio. #nervoussystem #relationships #relationshiptips #menscoach #emotionalsafety
We just started reading safe, the first book we got from you, it feels like one of those books everyone should read, absolutely amazing. What would be a good follow up - if there is one?
2026-05-28 18:05:03
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Robyn Morgan 🕊️ :
A lot of this applies to me being raised by a single dad too 😞
2026-05-27 19:45:22
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Demirhan :
Okay. Min kone siger “jeg skal til en weekend ophold i en europæisk hovedstad pga arbejde, vil du også tage med mig?”. Jeg siger “ jeg forstår at du vil have vi tilbringer tid sammen men den weekend er jeg nødt til at tage på arbejde”. Hun bliver ked af det/sur/skuffet og jeg får skylden. “Jeg er også den der ikke tænker på hende, der ikke ser hende og hun er ikke min første prioritet”. Hvordan skal det løses? Please 🙏
2026-06-21 00:15:33
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Ivi45 :
But he doesnt. I say i am hurt, he says well its your own fault. I tell him that how he acts in certain situations gives me anxiety , he replies that Our conversation gives him anxiety. I cant win!
2026-05-28 18:22:57
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carolina_pizano :
Do you coach only couples or singles as well?
2026-05-27 17:12:51
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Kare 🇨🇦 :
Sometimes?
2026-05-27 16:53:34
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Karen Kelly :
Mine varnishes. l dont bother
2026-05-31 08:12:37
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basicallyit :
at first I wanted a solution but that was too hard so now I just want to be heard
2026-05-28 01:31:48
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