Anthony | How to People
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Zakkekk :
As a person officially diagnosed with "gifted" or "high abilities" I can say socialising with other people is hard. it is a very common problem with me and other people in my community
2026-05-27 18:49:19
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Jiveturkey :
I feel like there's an implicit belief in comments like this that intelligence is a special virtue that elevates the people who have it. you don't hear people saying "I can't relate to people less funny than I am" or "I can't talk to people who aren't as gifted at music as I am". my intelligence is one facet of my personality, nothing more. the people around me are unique and brilliant in other ways, and in appreciating that I can connect with them.
2026-05-31 04:14:36
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Saint Ian :
There is some nuance to the issue though. I don’t have the source on hand, but it’s true that people generally develop close relationships with people of similar intelligence. So exceptionally high intelligence will make close friendships somewhat harder to find. But if you’re taking that to the extreme of not having any level of friendship with anyone, that’s not something you can simply blame on intelligence.
2026-06-03 18:39:02
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№user :
Another thing i am noticing that is connected to intelligence and socialising is that more often than not intelligence is not appreciated. At least in my experience. What I mean is that sometimes people just don't understand you and and your ideas or don't like the "smart" decisions you are advising, when they collide with their subjective view on things, even if you explain the logic. But this is understandable. Intelligence is not made for social interactions after all. EQ and empathy are tools for this. People are not math problems. Although sometimes it can be a little lonely when you can't find people who match your intelligence.
2026-05-27 23:23:20
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V :
I think a lot of times for me my problem isn't just 'oh I'm smart', it's that I subsequently tend to interact with things on a deeper and more advanced level than a lot of people are used to or comfortable with in their day to day interactions. And that's fine, neither group is right or wrong there, just different... but sometimes it makes me feel so isolated and sad. Like I am constantly being asked to feel less or make myself smaller to fit in with others rather than being allowed to have the full breathe of my genuine self. Honestly, if I hear the words 'it's not that deep' one more time, I will just give up and cry.
2026-05-28 03:05:16
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Girl With The Green Suit :
Bill Nye once taught me “everyone you’ll ever meet knows something you don’t”
2026-05-30 13:28:10
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dancingrain22 :
great explanation
2026-05-27 19:21:12
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DOGMA :
the self awerness
2026-05-28 00:08:57
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strocode :
I can count the friends I can talk about books with on one hand. They are precious to me, but slogging through the rest of society is kind of a grind.
2026-05-30 07:13:58
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ItsMeTheBee :
Intelligence may be related to social skills but not directly, there are mediating and moderating factors. But more importantly, “smart” is such a relative term. If one of my patients (I work in adolescent mental health treatment as the person in charge of education) asks me if I think they’re smart (which happens more often than you’d think) I ask them what smart means to them, and they ALWAYS have different answers. Sometimes it’s about processing speed, sometimes it’s just doing well in school, and those are very different. People who claim to be smarter than everyone around them aren’t really saying anything, in my opinion.
2026-05-28 11:46:12
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Ysosrs Lawl :
I use to be that way when I was in high school and during my 20s. Took me a long time to get over myself and due to some situations that occurred I've almost gone the opposite direction with the confidence it gave me when I was more arrogant and believed I was superior. I don't have an official autism diagnosis but it does run in my family and I've been able to identify some things that would make a lot more sense if that is indeed true. So this may have impacted me in some way as well.
2026-05-28 01:18:28
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