@ashleymasontherapy: I apologize for the allergies you can hear so loudly in my voice. Anyway, here we talk about mainly Drea and the defenses she uses to regulate and ward off unwanted thoughts and feelings. #couplestherapy #couplestherapytok #psychoanalysis #defensemechanisms

maxineshaw313 :

If you don’t want a pillow princess, why stay with a pillow princess?????

chaschaschass :

Nessa definitely cheated. when asked how long was the drought, she used a filler word “like” when she usually speaks clearly. she got nervous & blinked rapidly, increased her tone & volume, leaned back bc she was anxious, then complimented & praised her partner to try to hide & stay the course.. i saw right through her bs immediately

BC30TikTok :

This one was a classic textbook: Anxious Attached found a Fearful Avoidant.

fluffydog9000 :

the difficult thing for drea here is like how do you sit in a therapy room where you're being asked to acknowledge and discuss neutrally something that, if it's finally recognised as true, blows up the entire relationship which Drea actually wants to save (and also is deeply wounding and humiliating for her in a way that nobody else in that room has to experience orna included). Nessa has a much easier role here where everyone has to sit and listen to all the reasons she doesn't want drea, and offer her all the pros and cons, and Drea has to be the one listening to that and then react in an understanding and compassionate way to something that would be horrendously upsetting for most people. It seems like a very difficult situation to maintain fairness for Drea where she is the only one with something to lose.

Stuff :

I feel like the last part of her talking about how she loves her is less so a defense and more so just genuinely going through her thought process in a way to explain why it hurts for her.

💗💗 :

I don’t know how to put my thoughts into words but I think that Nessa wants to leave only after making sure that Drea will continue to thrive without her. Which shows that there’s consideration which unfortunately does not mean Love. I truly hope Drea starts to open up to Orna.

Truth hurts7481 :

Nessa set up the whole dynamic of this a relationship. She picked a pillow princess because she struggles with her own identity.

Cleopatra Mashile :

Nessa doesn't realise her lack of directness although not wrong can feel insulting. she is basically saying shes not attracted to her for all of her not only physical or codependence, she just doesn't want her but decides to tear her down instead of be direct and say divorce. Nessas part in this stresses me out. shes doing things this way because she wants to be careful and loving, hence using a therapist to help her break this down but daaaang, i wish Orna would put the ball on Nessa directly

EB :

Interesting. I see it as nessa wants to want drea, but can’t under the current conditions, and drea needing to hear that directly but literally can’t handle it because she seems to be attaching nessa not having desire with nessa “being done and moving on” which is why she moves into these compliments. I think she’s looking for security in the relationship in the absence of intimacy. But also, I think the relationship stops working for Drea if she’s not feeling desired and she also has to process that Nessa stayed in the relationship despite not feeling desired for a year. But I just realized I haven’t watched the first part Lolol

Xiomy :

Where is this show???

BlackButterflyKisses :

Nessa is full of it, I hope Drea finds the strength to leave and finds someone who appreciates her.

Bcat :

I really LOVE the way you explain things

Dwee❤️ :

Nessa appears to be An Avoidant which could be detrimental to their relationship. However, In defense of Nessa she doesn’t want to hurt Drea, and continues to stay with her.

gabicastorenaa :

I think it was very important that when Drea said Nessa didn't want her anymore. Nessa didn't retract and say "oh but I do or I still care about you" even after Drea said all these nice things about her. I think if I were Drea, that would have lead me on more yk. I would just be watching my partner for signs of hope that everything will be okay and that I don't have to go though these tough feelings.

Wanda M :

Erica M :

nessa is truly manipulative and the great way that she carries and articulates herself makes it easy for the manipulation to go over ppl’s heads

Kristin✊🏻🍉🌈💙🐾 :

Omg I’m Nessa 😳 Everything you’re saying is hitting at my soul in a space I buried long ago. Her behaviors and your narrative about her behaviors feels like I’m watching my own life be narrated. Holy moly ma’am, damn

Internationalaccount :

What counts as confusing behavior?

the_fireangel :

Drea has been told again and again that this relationship is over, just not with those words. Nessa wants very much to explore but wants Drea to be there when that exploring eventually becomes boring, just like all other Nessa's projects she eventually get bored with (including Drea)

httptorrence.baby :

What’s crazy is Drea has the CAPACITY to go deeper, I’ve seen it. She just won’t when it comes to this

X :

I am most struck by you saying you think Drea is holding a lot of emotion for them both. I think I am, on the one hand, hearing Nessa's 'No' that points towards not wanting to be in relationship, but this does seem more complicated. You noted that Drea shuts down the space, but what is it she is holding that needs to enter the space? I fully agree with the layer that is her trying to defend against what Nessa is going to say, but I feel like she is also trying to bring something else into the space that she is holding for Nessa. I am left feeling unsure about why they are in the space with Orna if what cannot be held is: Nessa wants out. The analysis and intervention seems to be on Drea and I am curious about how even the analysis isn't holding much of Nessa.

Ashley Mason :

Couples Therapy S5E2

EB :

Like this comment if I should log into my exes Crave account and crush the whole new season

SolarPunkLife :

me rn

kgal :

where is this program