@thepottymouthguru: A lot of emotionally avoidant, conflict-avoidant, or shame-defensive men were once little boys who learned: 👉 emotions create danger, guilt, engulfment, or inadequacy. Especially in mother-son dynamics where the son unconsciously became: - the emotional caretaker - the “good boy” - the stabilizer - the confidant - the emotional protector Many sons learn VERY early that being emotionally needed is the closest thing they get to being emotionally loved. So adulthood can look like: - emotional shutdown - conflict avoidance - overfunctioning practically instead of emotionally - guilt around boundaries - emotional suppression - withdrawal during conflict - shame spirals when partners bring hurt - difficulty tolerating emotional dependency or disappointment Not because they don’t care. Because the nervous system learned: 👉 emotional safety depends on emotional containment. And honestly? Some emotionally avoidant men were once emotionally over-responsible little boys. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #unfuckyourself #thepottymouthguru #attachmentstyles #motherandson #relationships
You just explained to me the last 27 years of my life in 5 minutes.
2026-05-30 19:49:20
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drshannadoeswellness :
I have an emotionally unavailable adult son. How do I create a safer relationship between us?
2026-06-01 19:24:17
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pink-gray23 :
I’m a mom, son is 16, I may have messed up in his younger years. Is there anything I can do to fix this wound before he grows into an adult?
2026-05-29 05:06:12
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Mudachi😚♥️ :
I(25) have a weird dynamic. my bf(36) was his mother's(deceased) favourite child. grew up in praise and acknowledgement of his intellectual capacity. very emotional and cries easily. not sure what category he falls in because I don't understand how to treat him. I feel like he wants me to embody his mother most times. help
2026-06-04 13:20:45
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knot.sumiko :
Watching this makes me wanna tell my son every time he cries how strong he is
2026-06-24 21:05:22
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Tyler :
Literally just explained my life 🫣🙃
2026-06-04 18:25:39
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derekaw :
This is a missing piece, it looks like a perfect fit.
2026-05-28 19:05:09
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Dusty993 :
It’s like you know my partner and I intimately…! And your videos are made specifically for us. Love this!
2026-06-01 08:54:43
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djoj :
My mom withdrew from me before I was even 9 or 10 🫤
2026-06-01 10:49:40
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deadmarionette :
funny thing is, as an older daughter with both mother and father daughter wounds my dad treated me like alot of the things in this video as well
2026-06-03 14:04:48
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Brandi C :
What’s parentification
2026-06-03 16:07:28
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Kieron D. :
Well damn
2026-05-31 05:40:13
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Admiral :
compulsive caretaking - describes me and why I never got a life like my friends and relatives because I never got to live my life
2026-05-31 12:21:29
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Jamai :
You are amazing at explaining these scenarios…
2026-06-08 13:35:06
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ald🇨🇦🇨🇦 :
I am so glad I make sure I hold myself accountable for my mistakes, that feelings are ok, being close and cared for is ok. that being who you are is ok. I love my boys more than anything and I want to ensure they are emotionally responsible and mature men
2026-05-30 20:49:07
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Lindsey :
Hyperindependence!
2026-06-01 19:03:55
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abraunxl :
….Nuh uh…… 🥺
2026-06-04 17:46:12
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Omi :
my husband
2026-06-04 14:56:53
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Jemma Suzanne :
Ohhhhhh yes I see that!! Wow
2026-06-04 03:43:24
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Chris :
My son is 11 and feels very comfortable crying in front of me and shares vulnerable thoughts and feelings. He is my world and I do the best that I can. Kids need to learn how to work through every emotion and we're here to teach them how to. 😊
2026-06-03 17:35:21
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linda.turnbull.nz :
so complex 🥰
2026-05-29 09:27:10
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Grimlockthedj :
I've given up being emotionally known by others
2026-05-29 19:00:53
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PinkBear63 :
yep
2026-05-28 23:04:02
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Emanuel Turner579 :
This was my life
2026-06-16 14:01:02
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