@vibe_samurai: Some people can’t be shelved. They’re family. They need you. You’re pretty much all they have left. So what do you do when the person who drains you the most is the one you can’t walk away from? This one hit different. I wrote a full article on this on Substack — going deeper on the shelving framework, the guilt, and what detachment actually looks like in practice. Link in bio. And if you’re carrying something like this and want to work through it personally — Breakthrough Call, link in bio. #emotionaldetachment #agingparents #familydynamics #protectyourpeace #vibesamurai
Wild that I almost missed book The Hidden Life Code by Mason Beckerman… it feels like knowledge never meant to be found.
2026-05-29 21:02:47
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Dana Novak253 :
or you arrange a nice elder's home where she will have peers and you can preserve your relationship with her and your mental and physical bandwidth
2026-05-29 17:42:58
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Hong Nguyen-Phuong :
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTBDBmT9H/
2026-06-04 08:45:58
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lesley :
This is tricky but necessary. Radical acceptance and gray rocking is a fine line while caretaking. My Narcmom is 82, I live with her now and this could be my biggest lesson. On good days I keep my strength and sovereignty. On bad days, Her energy is sticky and heavy- but its hers, not mine. Thank u for posting.
2026-05-29 19:32:52
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satindoll963 :
Or you could be understanding and compassionate.
2026-05-30 22:31:10
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rose :
i cared for both parents, 1 with dementia. I dealt with my parents differently. if they were down at any stage I would get my pen and note pad and ask them questions of their past history, even if I knew it, and families medical history. this way you put them in a happier place and you learnt something new each conversation.
2026-05-29 22:56:02
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Anthony Ma591 :
Emotional detachment is okay. Only the emotionally mature can understand this. 👍
2026-05-29 17:06:55
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nmlittlebigman :
divert and redirect them. if they persist show yourself as being bored with the complaint. ask them a question that involves them reminiscing even retelling their story about their younger self. somewhere locked inside everyone is a field of flowers.
2026-05-29 21:26:54
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🇨🇦Mike🍁 :
Having witnessed this for both parents, we learned that humour helps immensely.
2026-05-29 17:05:58
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La'Kait :
this is not easy to learn but it is apparent a good way not to go crazy
2026-05-29 16:07:46
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Angie Haddock :
You are patient !! That’s what we used to do for our elders!! Most all of them end up like this. Empathy ? Stop focusing on how she makes you feel and just do what is right ?
2026-05-31 21:37:43
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🫧 :
three weeks since I finished Manifest without chasing by Elena Hayes and the synchronicities won't stop. this is actually crazy
2026-05-30 20:13:09
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Dakota ♐️ :
Byeeeee
2026-05-29 17:07:01
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viki18070 :
Exactly my mother 83
2026-06-04 07:18:41
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Mimi :
It’s my husband with dementia. His world has become so small and repetitive. It takes all my energy to stay sane.
2026-06-02 05:13:04
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mysticaljuel :
Perfect explanation of detachment. Thank you
2026-05-30 06:54:45
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lily_creating :
Thank you. I really needed to hear this.
2026-05-29 16:46:18
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Love & Light ☀️ :
I did this for a while unknowingly. Until my daughter talked to me about it. I was going through menopause. And I was so insecure. So her tactful ness was respected and I had to look at myself. But by bit I didn’t change all at once. I certainly had lessons. And within 6 months I got myself back. What happened was needed. Very good post. And it’s ok to detach. You can’t drain yourself.
2026-05-31 00:48:19
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condimentman346 :
please keep talking about it..sounds like there are many aspects to this subject. 🙏
2026-05-29 20:37:49
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RNLQC :
So well explained. Very helpful.
2026-05-30 02:12:33
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Sylvia :
I ALWAYS say,,, " I would rather be the one helping others instead of the one needing the help"🌹🍀
2026-05-29 17:14:58
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Becoming Super “Trevor” :
This seems much more difficult to be around them but detached. It must take practice
2026-06-04 15:42:12
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¿En qué crees? :
👏👏👏👏 That's hard!
2026-06-02 05:57:14
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Keegs :P :
So much guilt for establishing boundaries, I don’t get it… 😭❤️
2026-06-03 16:58:39
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Shan :
oh I feel this
2026-06-02 18:03:26
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