@relationalalchemy: Anxious attachment is not just fear of love leaving. It’s mistrust of love itself. So even when love is here… your body braces. Questions. Monitors. Grips. You never fully let it all the way in. And that creates starvation. Because the love you long for never truly lands. A huge part of healing anxious attachment is learning how to actually receive love without bracing for abandonment at the exact same time. #anxiousattachment #attachmenttheory #relationshiphealing #nervoussystem #selflove

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intromonk
user3073047725626 :
What’s the root of anxious attachment? What wound?
2026-06-25 07:55:35
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georgelondon7
georgelondon7 :
To be honest - I get anxious when I feel the inclination they are not genuine and that make me fear love because 9 out of 10 times I am right 😭😭😭
2026-05-29 20:03:43
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michellecallowayy
Michelle Calloway :
My greatest lesson was learning to reject love that wasn’t showing up properly instead of chasing it. The healing was in sitting with myself and receiving my own love. 🙏
2026-05-29 22:39:12
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lexiraae
lexi :
you’re an angel tysm. Your videos help me so much and additionally help me refine how I would like to show up as a therapist
2026-09-09 03:39:24
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jillyfish__
jillyfish__ :
Well shit. This was extremely illuminating, to say the very very least
2026-06-06 08:21:37
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jjsherwood
Jessica J Sherwood :
For the first time I've experienced this. And I'm learning that I just have to accept that if the other person can't meet my needs, then I can't MAKE them. I have to accept the pain, not force or cling to a false reality.
2026-06-08 12:07:23
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wooberdeen
Avery :
Problem is I have surrounded myself with untrustworthy people so I can’t practice letting love in with them.
2026-05-30 13:27:25
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dayanamay_
Day :
How do we practice letting the love in? Is it like exposure therapy do we need to go into things we know will hurt us intentionally? How? 😭
2026-09-07 21:19:44
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cutiepielatte
E :
It’s kinda like there’s a bit of avoidance in there ironically
2026-05-30 12:38:17
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jubes93
JuliaET🇨🇦🌹 :
this is interesting, as an anxious attachment person, I want the love I chase the love, but yet I see people being loved and I think I wouldn't even know how to accept that level of love if it came to me.
2026-06-06 02:28:05
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emily__grows
emily___grows :
Thank you. Listening to you I felt a wave of grief and gratitude and compassion all at the same time for these parts of me trying to protect myself, and now being ready to update it out in the world.
2026-05-30 09:38:31
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amelia_takane
AMELIA :
The hypervigilance is the worst
2026-06-19 03:41:22
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carocalixta
Caro González Portino :
it also reflects with receiving money ...
2026-06-01 20:15:44
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blop129blop
Paige Koning320 :
This is so deep and I’ve actually had the same real realization this week
2026-05-29 23:54:10
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chasingrainbowandsunsets
Helen 💫 🤎 :
I needed this. And you’ve given me homework - thank you
2026-06-15 09:47:22
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whoiscollinme
Collin :
Super well rounded video thank you
2026-05-30 04:42:12
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jordanhattaway1
Jordan Hattaway :
Wow I needed this
2026-05-29 21:17:36
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mars.ha1010
Marsha 🇨🇦 :
It is terrifying and now I see why I was so controlling in my marriage. I tolerated, then i left. I have not really felt ‘seen’ since then, in romantic partnerships.
2026-05-30 11:36:02
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evenangel4
EvenAngel :
It only happens when they are not fully as in as me… when someone is super attentive and into me-there is no anxiety. But… I’m more attracted to the first ones… it’s like I have to prove I’m awesome. Love me, choose me, pick me. It’s SICK!
2026-05-30 17:31:29
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evelinnama
evelyn rose :
nailed it
2026-06-02 08:13:47
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allicatmeows
meowwww :
So fucking good
2026-06-23 06:10:46
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tachmolecule
user5903426063684 :
Thank you. So helpful.. so sadly true
2026-06-05 02:37:08
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princess_peach_strong
Kayla :
this is soo true. I healed alot on my own and nwo in a good relationship and even though my bf shows me love i struggle to feel it.
2026-06-05 03:43:17
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kathleencavalaro
Kathleen Cavalaro :
You have helped me so much
2026-06-01 04:59:53
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yourmoonlight_13
Your moonlight 🌖 :
Why tf am i crying the whole video. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
2026-05-31 15:48:59
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