Michelle Ellsworth
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mayday_717 :
This only works if the parents are actually coparenting and united. In my experience and from what I’ve seen most parallel parent to minimize conflict. 2 different house equals 2 different set of rules
2026-06-02 10:57:06
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sarahbowser573 :
Consistency is key! However on certain circumstances parents choose to not follow consequences due to hatred for the other parent. So if there is a good relationship between the parents, I guess that would make this a lot easier. I am a stepmom as well. It has not been easy for the past 2 years.
2026-07-22 17:37:12
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kristenmaurer761 :
It only works if both parents works together.
2026-05-30 03:59:01
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MichelleA1989 :
If you are not dealing with a high conflict coparent I think it’s should extend across homes. But if you deal with a high conflict coparent like we do, they will do the exact opposite of what the punishments are and reward them because they got in trouble here and she can’t agree on anything. So in this case we have punishments only at our house and if it’s not done when they leave it pauses and picks back up when they come home.
2026-08-01 03:05:26
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TLFinGA :
As a stepmom for many years to multiple kids, plus my own bio kids, in theory the consequences should follow the children. But the reality is that a lot of the time the parents aren't on the same page and won't agree to that. For example, if at my house, one of the children doesn't do their chores after being told multiple times, so they lose screen privileges. That won't carry over to the other house because over there the kids don't have chores to do. And their other parent doesn't feel that it's necessary.
2026-06-02 12:39:14
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downwiththebrowns :
In a common sense way, it would follow the child. Reality- if you parented the same as your co-parent, chances are, you probably wouldn’t be in a blended family situation. We are a full circle blended family, his, mine, and ours. We are a “our house, our rules” if you don’t like it, don’t come over. We run a tight ship, both of our other co-parents do not. It’s hard at times, but we have children together and rules are rules.
2026-06-04 20:59:15
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MrsBrewer23 :
it would be better & actually easier on the kids if both households agreed on standards & expectations, but we do not have that luxury so we work with what we got
2026-06-02 15:00:16
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J12345 :
100% both houses
2026-05-30 03:17:23
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Random :
Very good question. Following to hear step kids opinion.
2026-06-12 15:35:03
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Emily Pritchard :
The problem is the rules and expectations are diff in diff households. So yes it would deff make sense for this to happen. But unfortunately that it won’t happen.
2026-06-01 21:49:10
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Jenna Karabin :
So I’m both a stepmom and have my own kids with an ex-husband. It all depends how your coparenting works with the other parent. With my children., the consequences follow them because we coparent well with eachother. With my steps kids there is such a disconnect between houses it’s impossible. I think for the kids the best option is the consequences to follow them. Teaches them accountability and and that you and their other parent communicate and work together. Otherwise they just can’t wait to get to the other person‘s house because they know they get away with it. That’s my experience, and we see a huge difference in my children’s behavior compared to my stepchildren behavior.
2026-06-02 12:48:10
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Vanessa dawn :
Just depends on the parents some will follow through and some wanna be the good parent. And let them off the hook. When they get there. But make it seem like they will do it.
2026-06-03 13:54:51
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Abby :
Spends on the infraction. Something small like not listening , no not necessarily. Catching ur kid bing drinking yes
2026-05-31 21:31:45
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Chelle78 :
Same at both homes. Coparents need to be viewed by children as a united front. Otherwise it opens a door for kids to rebel against just one parent or to favor where consequences are different. They need to know that though mom and dad aren’t physically together they still work together as the parents.
2026-05-31 16:08:39
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eealvarez17 :
Common sense would have it be this way. But unfortunately it’s hardly like this. My ex-husband and I do this with our kids great, we kept all rules and discipline the same when we split so our kids still knew what to expect. If they get in trouble here or Dads it stays. But with my husband and his kids; their mom doesn’t speak to us, we don’t even know if they are in trouble there, for what or anything. So unfortunately we can’t keep the discipline going when we don’t even know if they’ve been in trouble. If they are in trouble here for something, and he expresses he feels like they should have their phones or this and that for a discipline once they go back to their moms, she nevers follows through. So we just do our best
2026-05-30 12:51:18
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Lovee3 :
They should but unfortunately there's a reason the parents are not together. most often it's because they don't agree on anything let alone how their parent their children. now that's not the case all the time by X and I co-parent 26 years later perfectly but I get it. They probably wouldn't agree on that consequence or that punishment or why the child was even having consequences in the first place so it's like beating a dead horse
2026-06-04 12:57:20
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