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ľubko :

as a trans man I definitely agree

blankybuba :

Be safe friends. Do what you need to do.

Dana :

Finally someone said it 😭

Daniel 🕺 :

I wish this was true

Eclat (artist, MetalFan,) :

Dont have to pass 😁

Sarah :

I live your podcast...I listen to every episode Spotify...the content helps a midlife Transwoman like me🏳️‍⚧️🌈❤️🌸🔥

Brandon Stewart :

I'm trans and completely agree. I tell people all the time that I worry more for the safety of trans women than for myself because I always passed. this is why we need to protect our trans sisters.

sonjabraggins36 :

I pass or not. I dont care. But im old lol

Doug :

Do what you need to do to be you. Just be. Love to all.

jordan💋🪩 :

i recognise her, was she in never have i ever haha

Mrs Feldman :

I love whenever Alexandra shows up on my feed

Matthew 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 :

The guilt I feel for passing everyday when my trans sisters are out there fighting for their lives. I will never deny my transness for them. But, safety first and always. Do what you have to do.

croto🦈🏖 :

yeah I agree

Goldeneye :

facts

Fatamy :

Agreed💜

angelwithdamage :

Don’t step on eggshells it’s true !!

Noldus :

Ross Williams :

I walk around with stubble, a low voice, and no bra or binder. And I pass.

Loosie💨 :

Im 40 yo transman who passes about 80% of the time…. I came out to my boss after 3 months and got fired a few days later 😅 leaving the south in one month and counting DOWNNN

WCM94 :

Misogyny can hurt trans women too.

most toxic perfumer :

i think it depenends on age of transition

T. C. :

Ya, I completely disagree on that first point - like I understand the meaning and that the contributor was trying to toe carefully, but also let’s not forget that not everyone has access to medical transition and other gender affirming care. Assuming that we just have to “do less” as transmasculine people, I feel, roots in assuming we’re automatically playing to cishet expectations, and specifically, white cishet expectations. It’s also just wrong. If I’m trying to pass, I’m thinking constantly about my behaviour and appearance. Been out as a trans guy for over five years and I still have 80+% of people who refuse to think of me as a man, even when corrected multiple times. AND I’m an open trans man who is a queer community leader in a progressive area, so everyone knows me. Most everyone thinks I’m butch. One could equally counter that it’s harder in some ways because a trans man dressing in a suit isn’t going to be received as I’m a man but I’m butch or just probably just cis and professional, whereas a trans woman in a dress will probably get seen at least as feminine presenting (minding all the horrible bs they have to deal with regarding how that femininity is received, and even that’s not guaranteed). Not to mention how hypovisible we are already. So yea, not a well-thought out take, though I generally appreciate this page. All of us have very distinct struggles with passing and transition that we should support communally, so personally I think playing the who has it worse game just doesn’t help anyone.

kae :

as a trans man I totally agree. I don't pass at all but I know once I get on T my journey into passing will be much easier than a tran woman's journey

Aiden (my boyfriends version) :

as a trans man, she's right, that's simply due to our gender norms