Opallauryn
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Be_A_Clarisse :
"Not getting those needs met but being asked to meet other needs." This is exactly what I've felt but didn't have the words for. This is it.
2026-06-03 16:11:46
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that(disabledsinging)baddie 💖 :
finding a partner who understands you and wants to understand you is sooo important for recovery in cheating/SA. With my boyfriend, the intimacy between us at first felt like a one sided obligation (from me) and we have taken the time to ask those hard questions like “what about that restaurant don’t you like” and having those conversations, being and feeling heard in those moments, it truly is life changing. Intimacy becomes something natural and something that you don’t feel like you have to give someone in order for them to love you. For my people going through something similar, it takes time, but I promise you it can happen and you can feel sexy and loved again 💖💘
2026-06-01 13:45:42
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Boujee Besties :
The restaurant analogy is perfect! Thanks for sharing this. My whole marriage was this.
2026-07-09 20:21:37
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Max |Overall Oaf| AuDHD 🇨🇦💄 :
When trust is broken, usually the first thing to go is xual intimacy
2026-06-01 15:52:38
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Sam 🌈🩷 :
Huge part of intimacy for me is safety. When I feel safe to be myself, to want what I want, act how I act and feel supported in all ways. My partner now in 2 years has built such a deep well of intimacy with me that even if we aren’t having sex it’s still deeply connected. We don’t even notice. Validation, support, closeness all of those things can and need to be found out of the bedroom first.
2026-06-01 18:06:25
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ashley ashborn 🪐 :
Yes. This is such a massive issue.
2026-06-01 14:18:07
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░m░a░t░t░e • Friend :
It's important for both people to be self aware and patient if they want the relationship to succeed through lack of desire. recognizing the signs something is wrong is an opportunity to work together to solve it and create a stronger connection and many people fumble it
2026-06-30 13:52:10
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user5727289267888 :
Mine triangulated pornography and myself. I told him I felt there was no way I could compete. He confirmed that I couldn’t, we haven’t had sex in a year.
2026-06-01 13:42:38
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Mandalee2of3 :
Men weaponize sex. It's their entire MO.
2026-06-24 13:05:56
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ErebethMiniel :
I just got out of a relationship where my boyfriend had apparently been feeling resentful toward me for the lack of sex (while not having any conversations about it with me). He knew that my 2nd boyfriend had SAd me, which affected my ability to be intimate, but I still tried to be clear to him that I wanted intimacy (in many forms). The past 8(?) months he had been less and less attentive in the relationship, which made it harder for me to be open and vulnerable with him -> less intimacy. He also acted like he had *tried so hard* with me and told me there was not point in talking because "You'll just end up crying and I'll feel like the bad guy". Looking back, it feels like he gave up ages ago, and my subconscious had been reacting to that. During the breakup he gave me vague excuses on not talking with me and did not acknowledge the intimacy we *had* been having (f..replay, etc). I obviously contributed to the situation too (avoidant attachment) but he (anxious attachment) did so too, which he is resistant to admit. It is so frustrating because if he had opened up about this to me, I would've been 100% willing to work on it.
2026-06-02 13:29:28
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