Jen
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Brit 🇬🇧 Trails :
I think when you get into this place, you are avoiding the truth because it hurts. You’re avoiding the fact that there is a man out there who knows exactly where you are and is doing nothing about it. You are avoiding the fact that there is a man out there that knows he didn’t give you an explanation, he didn’t give you closure, he didn’t treat you right but is unable to take accountability or responsibility to even look at his own feelings let alone yours. You have to stop asking the why and just accepted as is. To really stop and think about how unattractive it is to still be thinking about a man who isn’t with you and isn’t actively choosing you. It doesn’t matter what the reason is. That should be repulsive. The only reason you’re still thinking about it is because you want a different outcome. But do you really want a man who isn’t fighting for you? What kind of life would that be? What kind of marriage would that be? How can you ever make it work with someone who can’t communicate? The long and the short of it is you can’t. So stop over romanticizing it. And put facts over feelings
2026-06-02 20:53:23
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Properbo :
I think we’re all chasing the version of ourselves and our life from the idealistic love bomb stage. Stuck on potential
2026-06-01 19:43:46
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Paul Askew :
I was discarded by my dismissive avoidant ex 4 months ago, I can still feel this constant heavy feeling in my chest, I will try this , thank you 🙏
2026-06-01 19:16:36
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Nicknamed Bree :
You are such an incredible communicator. This video is gold!!
2026-06-01 20:56:00
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aqua_845 :
Thank you. Thankfully I am doing both atm, some days obsessing and some days hurting and feeling the sadness. There are starting to be good days also, and even sometimes a minute off the thinking.
2026-06-01 15:22:53
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Matt :
with an avoidant it’s the breadcrumbs that don’t fully allow you to process rejection
2026-06-13 06:29:41
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user4194492625700 :
I saw your video about this March last year and made a decision to consciously/intentionally do this and I can confirm a year later my rumination had reduced significantly.
2026-06-01 17:26:16
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activatecleo :
“Yeah, I WASN’T chosen… Yeah, I was rejected…” My God, so triggering! But if you accept this then you’ll create immunity for it inside yourself and you won’t be triggered by rejection that much if not AT ALL in the future and this is freedom! This is justice! This is liberation!
2026-06-07 00:39:27
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ALY G8R 🐊 :
This was me for 2+ years and I was actually diagnosed with OCD a couple of months ago. My doctor put me on Zoloft, and it’s been a life-changer.
2026-06-02 04:59:07
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. :
This is harder than it sounds. I thought I was “feeling” my emotions for the past 4 years until I have no other choice BUT to sit with my emotions. Im just slowly starting to process my pain. I appreciate coming across this video 🥺
2026-06-02 04:09:09
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positively bleak :
can someone like my comment so I can have this as a reminder
2026-06-03 05:55:41
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ConnieE :
This is so kind of you to share 🙏What I will say there are so many aspects of being discarded/ slow faded out from a DA. Even after I have moved on married, there are triggers that still won’t go away. Age, perspective, growth, doesn’t change the hurt. It’s a feeling you won’t forget but move with.. hurts even more when no closure was given and you have to make sense of it yourself. I’d say to my younger self go see a therapist, don’t suffer in silence as I did . 💕🙏
2026-06-02 00:29:22
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Romain Mure :
EMDR helps you release all of this if you can’t do it by yourself!
2026-06-02 02:33:00
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Ell 🦋❤️ :
Listen to this amazing lady 🥰 Jen has helped me so much I’ve gone from anxious to feeling a lot more secure ❤️thank you xx
2026-06-01 16:39:27
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renee_erin :
You are so well spoken and explain really well. I am defiantly going to try this. I really need to start trying to shift alot of this trauma. Really hope it works🤞
2026-06-01 15:31:59
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Restons Petits :
I was doing ok after my breakup and then all of a sudden had a rush of impending doom and so many thoughts about what I should have done differently to fix things.
2026-06-02 04:56:06
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OGemmoushe 🤍 🧿 :
This is me. I’ve been stuck in a rumination loop for a year since he ended it with me. I am exhausted. 😢
2026-06-01 23:33:16
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cindy.a36 :
yes it’s horrible
2026-06-02 11:00:41
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Aracelis Marie :
Don’t avoid it, feel it. Emotions are a wave that eventually end.
2026-06-02 12:21:16
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cosmically_grounded :
Oh my it’s so liberating to be free! I never thought I’d see the day.. since Oct 2025 brutal betrayal. It’s a journey but I fucking expedited it somatically. I had to keep saying over and over ‘it’s ok, he harmed me, I’m safe now’ The gaslighting of what I ‘didn’t see’?? was horrific. I literally cut off the air supply two weeks ago having gone through the push pull.. the amount of people commenting how happy I am now.. your posts really helped thank you
2026-06-01 18:21:56
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𝑀𝑒𝑙𝑖 ♡ :
Tysm for explaining many suffer in silence afraid of judgement 🥰
2026-06-02 06:59:18
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King_Rookie :
Ty for your time to bring light upon this issue. It really takes a lot of energy from daily battery to heal, to be aware about the feelings that rise from underneath. Let alone the fact that a lot of that pain needs to be processed by crying and grieving, and when we’re in social environments we just have to postpone those burst for later, while boiling and bubbling in chest and throat like a wave of unreleased energy. Take care! 🙏
2026-06-01 15:08:51
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nova :
Jen your videos have really helped me the past couple of years after an avoidant discard that absolutely destroyed me. You have a gift for explaining things! As a result I've been able to teach my nervous system how to release and bounce back from stress/pain. The way I move through life is completely different now! Thank you for all you do, and I hope anyone reading this knows that it's 100% possible to rewire your brain and nervous system so that life doesn't feel so unbearable all the time. 💞
2026-06-02 19:04:55
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LynnM :
It’s been 4 years . I was in survival mode for 3 yrs and thought I was coping . Instead the nervous system was going further & further into lockdown . I don’t know how to get it unstuck .
2026-06-02 01:52:44
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le sy :
I have seen and saved maybe 100 videos to help me through a break up, this is the one that’s helped me most even though she wasn’t an avoidant (but could not tolerate shame and externalized it on me). Thank you so much for this
2026-06-24 07:51:40
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