@abbyrodmanpsychotherapy: Remember the last time you were driving slowly in traffic because you didn’t know where you were going and your slow speed was annoying the drivers around you? Cognitively, you understood why the other drivers might be annoyed. But emotionally, you really didn’t care because you didn’t want to miss your next turn because you were driving too fast. Consistently not caring how your actions affect others is a trait of narcissism. Narcissists may know why you’re hurt or bothered, but they can’t allow themselves to care. Especially when it comes to asking them to take responsibility or accountability for their behaviors. The narcissist will resist anything that makes them feel shame. And your pain has the potential to make them feel shame.