@scott.austin.martin: One of the most practical things a couple can do is agree on a word or phrase that means: we are getting dysregulated and we need to stop before this goes somewhere neither of us wants to go. Not a surrender. A pause. An agreement that serious conversations do not happen when one person is at a four or above on the stress scale. Stop. Take a breath. Walk. Ground. Regulate. Then come back as teammates. From defense mode to connection. That is the shift. #nervoussystem #relationships #relationshiptips #menscoach #emotionalsafety

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noyb_20 :

What if your partner is typically functioning on a regular basis at a four or above. That’s their baseline.

2026-06-03 19:03:20

Hambubger :

Oklahoma

2026-06-02 22:46:57

Brooke :

Thank you for this. this is absolutely important for partnership.

2026-06-10 16:00:44

Sheena Martin :

Oh wow. Thank you for this.😭

2026-06-03 13:33:41

PsycleKim :

I love this!

2026-06-04 12:20:27

virgiaranda24 :

Genius!!!

2026-06-03 18:18:50

Walebaby :

I tried to say something similar when she got defensive and started escalating when I brought up a harmful behavior but she said was too anxious to not immediately address it. I think my response was missing me saying when to return to the convo as I mainly said there’s no point in having the convo while your guard is up and activated.

2026-06-03 03:35:43

AJCM :

Past a 4 out of 10 is hilarious. 😂😂🤣🤣🤣💀.

2026-06-04 13:42:45

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